Raising a Son with a Special Heart: An Interview with Bret Baier
Bret Baier's life as a father changed when his first son, Paul, was born with five congenital heart defects a few years ago. The Fox News anchor of Special Report with Bret Baier talks to Parents.com to promote awareness of a common (but rarely detected) birth defect and how he balances parenthood with raising a toddler who has congenital heart disease.
What Is Your Family's Story About Congenital Heart Defects?
Please share the story of your son, Paul, being born with congenital heart defects.
Everything leading up to the pregnancy was fine. Nothing came back on any of the screenings and the doctor gave him a clean bill of health. While we were still in the hospital, the nurse noted he was turning pale and they took him back for some tests. At first, they thought that he might have some sort of bacterial infection and then, as precaution, they called in a cardiologist to do an echocardiogram. At that point, they realized he had really complex heart defects. He had a couple of holes in his heart, five defects that needed to be fixed within a short time. The biggest one was called d-transposition of the great vessels -- the heart is pumping the wrong way, the arteries are going the wrong way, and oxygen could not get to his body.
That started our journey. We went to Children's National Medical Center and waited for a fantastic surgeon, Dr. Richard Jonas, and 12 days later our baby had open-heart surgery. Part of the fix was to insert a connector, a donated baby aorta, that connects Paul's right ventricle to his pulmonary artery. It's like this little macaroni noodle that allows the heart to work properly. So that was sewn in during the first surgery, but 10 months later he had to have a bigger version sewn in because he was growing. In about eight months, he's going to have a third open-heart surgery. We're hoping it'll just be four surgeries; we're hoping the next connector will take him into the teenage years and one after that to take him into adulthood.
How do you prepare him for surgery at his age?
Paul knows he has a special heart and that the doctor has to look at his heart, but I'll be honest with you: It's daunting, and nothing like you've ever experienced as a parent, having to explain to your son why this is happening and assuring him that it's going to be okay. The last angioplasty was just six months ago, and I had to hold him as they were putting him under. So he was in my arms as they were putting the anesthesia over his mouth, and that's pretty tough. I'm really not sure how to prepare when it comes. We would welcome suggestions from your readers on how to prepare Paul and how to prepare us.
Congenital heart disease isn't necessarily inherited -- what are some methods of early detection? What are signs of a congenital heart defect? Are there ways to prevent it?
When you start talking about congenital heart defects, it's amazing how common they are. I think one in 150 children has some sort of congenital heart defect and, out of those, half of them need surgery in the first year. Now, a lot of this can be detected by measuring the oxygen level of your blood. If there were a mandated check at hospitals when babies are born, this could be detected early. In Paul's case, if we'd gone home and he'd turned pale, we wouldn't have known what to do and he could've died.
Can congenital heart defects be detected before birth or do you have to wait until after?
Both. There are specific ways. Paul had the four chambers of his heart, but the blood was going the wrong way. You have to look really hard.
What advice do you have for parents who need support in raising children with life-threatening conditions, defects or diseases? What suggestions do you have for promoting awareness of this issue?
Congenital heart defects are under the radar, unfortunately, especially regarding children. There is no awareness about how prevalent it is. Just the other day, the president signed the American Heart Month proclamation, and it does good things concerning heart disease, but it doesn't deal with heart defects. The key thing is to work with your doctor, have confidence in what's happening, and have family and friends rally around you. We got through our experience because of all the people that helped out. You realize how important family and friends can be.
You have said in other interviews that Paul is your miracle baby. Besides the obvious miracle of his survival, what miracles about life and parenting has he taught you?
He's growing faster than most kids in his class and he has a ton of energy. If you looked at the playground, you would never be able to point at him as the kid who has had two open-heart surgeries and four angioplasties, and who has another open-heart surgery scheduled in eight months to a year. For parents of healthy kids, every day is such a blessing. Sometimes when the kid throws the cereal on the wall or is being a real stinker, the experience we went through gives us a whole new perspective on how precious moments are. Taking the small things, the little laughter every day, right now kind of gets us through to the next stop.
This whole thing has also given me perspective about my job, going through policy and politics in Washington, D.C., to see the bigger picture. It does give me perspective on what's more important.
- What to Know About Congenital Heart Defects
- Four Common Birth Defects
- Symptoms and Treatments for 9 Birth Defects
How Do You Balance Parenting with a Full-Time Job?
You and your wife welcomed another son, Daniel, into the family last year. How did you prepare yourself differently for your second son? Was there anything you learned the second time that you wish you had known the first time?
It was really hard for us to make the decision to have another child. We debated it for a long time. We always had the vision that we'd have at least two children. It took a while to get over the hurdle of being scared about what could happen. When Daniel was born, I was a mess because when he came out, he was not the perfect color and he had some breathing issues. I thought, "Here we go again." We had our cardiologist give him an echocardiogram after birth and everything was fine. He's been a great baby. It's a totally different experience. We weren't answering the cries of a baby who had heart surgery. We were answering the cries of a baby who was not happy in the crib. We celebrated that fact.
Do you have tips on how to give parents trying to balance parenting with a full-time work life?
That is the biggest challenge -- balance. A friend of mine, Jack McWethy, was an ABC correspondent at the Pentagon. He died tragically in a skiing accident a few years ago. I remember him telling me, "You work long hours and you put in a lot of time. It's imperative that you go home and walk through the door and put the coat on the hanger. You hang up your work there and you're now in family time." I took it to heart. After his death, I reflected on that at his memorial service. I aspire to hang up the job with the coat at the door. When you're in the house with the family, that should be family time.
Where do you find your greatest source of strength as a parent?
A source of strength is my wife and the fact that we try to be united on how we go about doing things. Our family is very supportive. My mother and Amy's mother are active grandmothers; they give bits of advice. When we were concerned that Paul wasn't talking and walking, I remember my mother-in-law saying, "Don't worry. Eventually he'll be walking and talking and you'll want him to sit down and shut up." Don't stress about those things. They're a great support system.
What values do you want to instill in both your sons as they grow up?
We're Catholic, so we rely on our faith a great deal. I'd like my kids embrace and respect that, respect their elders, respect other people. Also, communication, if there's a problem. Even though my son's 3?, I want to hear what he's thinking.
What is your greatest hope for Paul and Daniel?
My greatest hope is that Paul and Daniel become very close as brothers. My greatest hope for Paul is that he has a long, healthy life so that I can be there for his graduations, for his wedding, and also see to his kids. We have hurdles ahead. I plan on enjoying these years as much as we can as a family.
Copyright © 2011 Meredith Corporation.
All content on this Web site, including medical opinion and any other health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Use of this site and the information contained herein does not create a doctor-patient relationship. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.