Why Kendra Wilkinson Is Super-Honest With Her 9-Year-Old Son About Sex
The reality star opened up about how she tackles sex ed with 9-year-old son Hank, who she says already knows about the birds and the bees.
If reality star Kendra Wilkinson is known for anything, it's for her outgoing, no-nonsense personality. Of course, that used to be amplified back in her Girls Next Door days, when she lived at the Playboy Mansion and called Hugh Hefner her boyfriend. These days, she's clearly less of a party girl and much more of a super-straight-shooting mom to 9-year-old Hank and 4-year-old Alijah. In fact, she had explained to E! News just how honest she is with her L.O.s, particularly her son Hank, about a potentially challenging topic: sex.
“It starts now with teaching them who I am,” Wilkinson, 33, explains. "They’ve been up to the Playboy Mansion. I have nothing to hide. And if you don’t have shame or regret..." Makes perfect sense! After all, one might argue that keeping her past life a secret from her kiddos could actually cause them confusion and emotional issues down the road. So, probably better to be up front about it right off the bat!
And that's not all she's upfront about. Wilkinson, who is recently divorced from husband-of-almost-9-years, Hank Baskett, says she never hid the truth from her kids when she was still with Hank senior. "I even tell little Hank sometimes, 'Go to bed. Mom and pop are going to have sex,'" she explained. "'We got to have some sex Hank, okay? Go to your room. Play your video games.'" Bold, Mama! But not too surprising, considering that she has spoken before about cosleeping with Hank and working that schedule out around her lovemaking. And while, at first blush, it may seem a bit surprising to be so candid, her honesty could be setting the foundation for her son to understand sex as something parents in a happy, stable relationship do to feel closer to one another.
One of the reasons Wilkinson says that she feels compelled to be so forthcoming about these topics is that kids are learning about sex "earlier and earlier." Basically, "they know, man," she says.
Sure, all parents have their own way of approaching sex ed, and to some, 9 may seem a bit young to be getting into the birds and the bees. But it's definitely not uncommon for kids to have curiosity around those topics at that age. When I was a kid, I saw a commercial or TV show that involved a guy buying condoms. When I asked my mom what that was all about, she explained it in a pretty basic, to-the-point way. Then and now, I appreciate her honesty. That talk made what could have potentially been a taboo, intimidating topic—specifically, acquiring birth control to have sex—seem not only responsible but natural.
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Sounds like Wilkinson has a similar perspective and approach with her children, and more power to her for it!