If you're like me, you are always behind the smartphone, instead of in front of it, come photo time. Indeed, I have a million pics of my kids, but far too few of myself, and my hubby for that matter.
Now, a powerful Facebook post by motivational speaker and author Kaylin Maree Schimpf is urging men in particular to take more photos of their wives, before it's too late.
"Dear men.... take the photo..." her now-viral post begins. "It doesn't matter what she looks like, or if she tells you no, take the photo."
I'm definitely guilty of telling—okay, ordering—my husband not to snap a picture of me if I'm wearing workout clothes (which is always), or don't feel my best (which is often). Oops. But as Schimpf writes, "Messy hair, no make up or a dirty old t-shirt won't matter to your children when she is gone someday."
She also writes, "You may not think about it often, or at all honestly. But how many photos does she capture of you, of your family and of your life you've built. But when she is gone, those photos won't show your children the woman who was behind the camera."
The post goes on to say that what will matter is that men loved what they saw enough to take that photo, "to document it, to preserve that moment in time of the woman you love."
Schimpf ends her by post by saying no one wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies. And it's true. I'd much rather leave behind visual proof that I was on that vacation, and at that school concert, and that I too played outside with my kids, all summer, until it grew dark out.
But now that I think about it, most of our pictures are just of the kids...and that's why it's equally important to document men's lives. Because as Schimpf told The Huffington Post, after her father died a year ago, she realized she didn't have many photos of him, because he was the one always behind the lens.
This post is a great reminder that even in a world where every moment can be captured and shared, far too few of them involve the architects of the family, the parents.
Do you think you could stand to take more photos of you, and your partner?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.