Australian mom blogger Constance Hall is sounding off about another issue facing modern moms. This time, the outspoken mama of four wants it to be known that not all of us stay home with our kids for the same reasons. In a powerful Facebook post that has gone viral, she writes, "People often make the mistake of thinking that they can tell stay at home mums what they can and can't do..." Hall goes on to cite instances of others telling her she shouldn't put her kids in daycare because she doesn't work, and asking her to run errands for them because she stays home.
"I don't really care, I've been a flat out working mum and accused of not 'mumming' properly and a stay at home one, people make assumptions about each," she goes on to share. But there are some things Hall won't abide by, like the notion that SAHMs are all the same, and that they don't work outside the home for the same reasons as women in the 1950s!
"The non working mother has changed, she's busy and fierce and contributes to society and whether her decisions to stay at home were based on a child's disability, a financial decision or the fact that she just f*cking likes it..."
Hip hip hooray, Constance! I too am sick of people making assumptions about the reasons I choose to work. And stay home. Only my husband and I truly understand why and how we make things work in our family. And the same goes for every other family! So as my daughters would say: Mind your own beeswax!
Of course, judgments about SAHMs and working moms are about as likely to come to an end as my kids' whining during our annual 10-hour drive to visit the grandparents. The key is to try to tune everyone out and do what works best for you.
Do people assume things about your work or stay-at-home status?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.