I had to laugh when I read actress and mom Salma Hayek's secret for maintaining her happy marriage after kids. Because it is so relatable!
The star, who has been married to French businessman François-Henri Pinault for a decade, and with whom she shares 10-year-old daughter Valentina, told reporters at Harper's BAZAAR's 150 Most Fashionable Women event in Hollywood on Friday that she just doesn't have a social life! As someone who stayed in all weekend (not counting kids' birthday parties, of course), that sounds about right.
In all seriousness, Hayek added that she married the right guy: someone who supports her in everything she does. "And you know what, we don't have a very strong social life, because we really like to spend time together. So we do spend a lot of quality time together," the gorgeous 50-year-old star said, according to People magazine.
Since my husband of almost 10 years is my best friend, and I would literally rather spend time with him than with almost anyone else, I agree that enjoying one another's company is key to a good marriage. But let's get real: kids can basically destroy any bond between spouses—no matter how strong—instantaneously, because they require so much attention, love, and care.
Indeed, for Hayek, balancing motherhood with marriage can be tricky. But she stressed that paying attention to the marriage is just as important as being there for your children. And she joked about Pinault, "You just have to remind yourself that you have that other big kid too to look after. He looks like he's self-sufficient, but [spouses] need the tender loving care too. You have to keep reminding yourself."
Is it bad that I call my husband my fourth kid sometimes? Don't hate on me; he's just as messy! And he'll just kind of stumble around the house waiting for me to direct him toward an activity or chore.
In the end, like Hayek, I agree that it's a tall order to balance marriage and motherhood. I'm so not perfect at it. The good news? I'm getting better. In another 10 years, when my kids are all grown up, I'll be a pro! (Yes, I get the irony...)
Do you agree with Hayek's advice for balancing motherhood and marriage?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.