Being a working mom is really, really hard. So it's no surprise to me that a recent survey finds that most working moms would rather stay home.
The Gallup poll looked at 323,500 American adults and found most moms with kids under age 18 wish they could take care of their home and family instead of having to head to the office every day.
Of course, when you dig into the numbers a little further, it becomes clear that nearly half of moms like working. Consider that 54 percent of full-time working mamas said they'd like to stay home, while 40 percent said they are just fine working outside the home.
I would say this split more accurately reflects what the landscape of mothers looks like. Some work, some stay home. Some like working. Some hate it. Some don't have a choice, and others do.
Meanwhile, 57 percent of SAHMs who took part in the poll claimed they were happy the way things are. But 37 percent were of the opinion that working would suit them better. It seems no matter your situation, sometimes you are going to wish things could be different.
We know that for many mothers, choice is not part of their reality, especially given the sky-high cost of childcare, and the lack of employer policies that support mothers. For many of my friends, working just to pay the babysitter makes little to no sense. Meanwhile, I know far too many moms who have had to go back to work much sooner than they feel comfortable, after having a baby.
It's worth noting the survey looked at men's work preferences, too, finding that 80 percent of employed men without kids said they would rather work outside the home, while 70 percent of dads said the same. Still, paternity leave is far from ideal in the U.S.
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Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.