We all know parents who separate and then struggle to even be in the same room together, let alone say anything nice about the other person. But Florida mom Jessica Singleton and her ex Jon Megason aren't one of those former couples. Instead, they have worked through "tremendous obstacles" to arrive at a place where they not only tolerate one another for the sake of their son, Pierson, but as the grateful mama writes in a powerful Facebook post, actually "welcome each other's presence."
In the viral post that pays tribute to her ex, Singleton shares in depth how Megason goes out of his way to help her parent their child on a daily basis.
I for one am blown away by the many selfless things Singleton's ex does to be a solid, dependable co-parent to their son, including dropping off "the $45 box of pull-ups at [her] front door" so she doesn't have to go out, and listening to her cry when she's stressed.
"This is a man who tells his son not to forget mommy's boyfriend when he lists his favorite people off the top of his head," she also shares, adding about Megason that he is "a man who rushes over because we got locked out of the house or spends his evening fixing something for us."
But lest you think the ex-couple arrived at this more-than-amicable place easily, Singleton assures readers that it wasn't easy. "Stop giving excuses and come together for your children," she advises other parents who have separated. "I'm the most stubborn person that I know and forgiveness came easy to us for the sake of our son. And because of that, I see my son every single day."
She goes on to tell Megason she is grateful for him, and that he is a great role model for Pierson.
We reached out to Singleton to find out more about how she and her ex managed to establish such an admirable co-parenting relationship, and she described the process of becoming a great team as exes as a "trial-and-error" situation: "We kept extending olive branches where we could. The best motivation is how our son, Pierson, clearly loves us all to be together in the same place. The thought of missing out on parts of his life gave me a lot of reason to forgive and forget. We had to put ourselves aside for a while and focus on our son's happiness."
Comments to the post are largely supportive of what these parents have accomplished for the sake of their child:
"He's only doing what a father should be doing. Just because their relationship didn't work out shouldn't mean his and his sons should suffer. Like the mother does at a moments notice runs around to places for kids. Responsibility is both parents as we know but few and far between."
"Round of applause ?... About time someone said positive stuff about their child's dad. I know my ex is a horses arse but he is always there for his son. Well done."
"It's too bad other dads don't put their children first like this dad. Others could learn a lot from him."
"That's the definition of being a man and a father, and his son will see that and be just like him. The world needs more guy's like this. Family First!"
"Now that time has passed," Singleton told us, "I find that we all benefit from this lifestyle and it is less harmful than carrying on completely separate households and lives. It's a win-win for us."
One thing's for sure: Her message will serve as an inspiration to many couples working to get there, for the sake of their kids.
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and soon-to-be mom of 4. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of yoga.