Mom of Three Responds to Stranger Who 'Feels Sorry' for Her
Courtney Lester was out shopping with her three beautiful kids when something unpleasant happened: A man approached Lester and said "I feel sorry for you, you have your hands full with all those kids."
Maybe the man's intentions weren't bad, but we have to wonder—what would possess someone to make a comment like this to a perfect stranger? After all, he had no idea what Lester's situation was. And maybe it would have been fine if he had said something along the lines of "you have your hands full and you're doing a great job," but to tell a woman you feel sorry for her? Well, we can imagine that might rub most moms the wrong way.
Lester is among that group of moms.
"What you can't tell is that I lost 2 babies before being blessed with my last 2, so if you want to feel sorry for me, there's the only reason why you should," the mom wrote in a now-viral post on Facebook. "My children are blessings. They aren't perfectly modeled citizens because, well, they're children. Sometimes they're loud, sometimes they misbehave, and sometimes they have complete meltdowns. However, you didn't even see that side of them. What you saw was a young couple with a 4 year old singing a song, a 2 year old sitting quietly in the buggy, and a newborn sleeping in his baby carrier. If that is your definition of having your hands full, I feel sorry for YOU."
"When the man approached us and made the comment...I was a little shocked. I didn't respond much at the time because I haven't ever had someone say they felt sorry for me, especially with such a harsh tone and aimed toward the size of my family," Lester told Parents. "I thought it was pretty rude to say, especially in front of my children. I tried to forget about it and not let it bother me, but my husband also thought it was rude so I felt like I should speak out about it."
Lester's decision to post about her experience wasn't just based on her desire to speak out, though. "I wanted other parents to know that their children are blessings and not to let anyone pity them because their 'hands are full,'" the stay-at-home-mom said. "I want other people to understand that you don't know what that family has been through so it isn't OK to make comments on a family's size, whether they have no children or several. If you have time to say something negative to a family, you can easily say something positive or uplifting instead."
Lester readily admitted that being a mom isn't easy at all. As all other parents out there will tell you, raising kids is one of the toughest things a person can do—but it's also an incredible blessing, and there's no reason to talk down to someone who has been blessed abundantly.
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"Being a mom (especially of three) is the toughest things I've ever done. I'll admit that," Lester said. "However, I don't feel sorry for myself because of it and I don't want other people to pity me for having children. I wanted a family of my own and that's what I have so I'm thankful.