Full disclosure: My husband and I are huge Bachelor fans. That may even be an understatement. We are mildly obsessed with/basically live for the show. Still, when I came across popular blogger Constance Hall's Facebook post about why she won't let her daughter watch the ABC series, I totally got it. We don't let our daughters watch with us either, because I don't want them thinking that being a size 2 and wearing a bikini is the only way to interest a man. But Hall made an even better point about why the reality dating competition sends a bad message to our daughters.
"An open letter to my 7 year old daughter who won't talk to me because I won't let her watch The Bachelor," the post begins. "Last night you got angry at me. You told me that it isn't fair that I don't let you watch The Bachelor."
Hall goes on to say she allows her daughter to watch other shows, even those with swearing and nudity. So why is The Bachelor so different?
"Because sweet thing and listen very carefully, your mum is rarely wise so you must pay attention," the Australian mom writes. "You go to school and you are asked to run [a] race against your best friend, you get into class and you [are] offered a prize if you are the BEST artist in the class, you brush your hair in the bath tub with your friends and decide to Hold a COMPETITION on who's [sic] hair is the longest."
Hall says she has had to make peace with the fact that competition is part of society, then adds, "But do you know what one thing you should NEVER ever compete for is? Love."
Whoa. Hall is kind of my guru right now. Especially considering another recent viral post, in which she nailed how differently moms and dads are treated for performing the exact same parenting responsibilities.
Now, the momof four goes on to explain why her child is forbidden to watch The Bachelor. "Because there are no winners and there are no losers with love. In your life you will love a man and he will love someone else, it happens to everyone. But that someone else didn't win and you didn't lose. You might meet someone else, you might decide you like women, you might just love being alone. But you will never lose."
Clearly Hall's words have struck a chord, as more than 80,000 people have reacted to this post, which goes even more into depth about the bad messages about love the show sends little girls. So I'm not alone in being quite struck by what she wrote. In fact, her take has inspired me to think more about what my kids watch on TV, and what they might be learning. Um, is House Hunters International okay?
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Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.