Kristen Bell has no problem admitting that maintaining a happy marriage with husband Dax Shepard is far from a piece of cake. In fact, the Bad Moms and Frozen star recently copped to Us Weekly about the fact that cultivating a successful relationship is actually a pretty big undertaking.
"It is not easy to work around another human being," she explained. "But if you commit to it, you can pretty much permanently respect that person. Then it doesn't really matter if you disagree because you still respect that person. I do disagree with him on 90 percent of the issues on the planet. But we have really wonderful, intense valued conversations about things, and I always see his point, even if I disagree. It's hard to do."
She's right. My husband and I are polar opposites in lots of ways, so we tend to butt heads a bit on certain topics. We know that we come to our ideas about the world from very different places, though, and so we try super-hard to understand and accept each other's views. And yes, it took a few years of therapy for us to be able to do this. And yes, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Because it's a slippery slope from disagreement to contempt—and one Bell hopes to prevent herself from sliding down.
"Never roll your eyes at someone," she told Us. "You might as well break up right then because it's contempt. I'm telling you—I disagree with him on almost everything, but I have intense respect for his critical thinking skills and the fact that we were raised differently. I always see his point. I do not and will not ever have contempt for him."
Kristen Bell is one smart mama. And even when she does fight with her man, the actress says she and Shepard will later go out of their way to make sure daughters Lincoln, 4, and Delta, 2 see them resolve the issue.
"[Dax] said, 'Kids can see adults fight, particularly their parents, but you ever think about the follow-through? When do they see them resolve it? When do they see them make up? And kids mimic us. That's how they grow,'" she explained. "We always make an effort to make them see. So the next morning I'll say, 'Hey, you know what Dad, I'm really sorry I was so frustrated yesterday when you were bringing in the groceries. I could have had a nicer tone in my voice.' And he would say, 'Thanks for saying that, Mom, I know you were stressed.' And we let our kids see how to solve conflict. And if we don't genuinely wake up like that in front of each other, we will write the script to make them see."
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Pretty brilliant. I've never thought about the aftermath of an argument before, and this is definitely something my husband and I should be doing in our own home. What about you guys—do you make sure your kids see you resolving your disagreements? Let us know in the comments!