The country singer, wife of NFL star Eric, and mom of two-under-two shares the details of how she keeps her marriage hot.

By Jessica Hartshorn
September 29, 2016
Jessie James Decker at Gerber Babies Event
Credit: Diane Bondareff/Invision for Gerber/AP Images

Country singer Jessie James Decker isn’t afraid to keep it real—really real— when it comes to the challenges of keeping a marriage hot when you’ve got two busy schedules (Decker is married to New York Jets wide receiver Eric Decker) and two little kids under the age of 2.

“Life gets really crazy with kids and schedules are hard, but couples need to be intimate,” the mom of Vivianne, 2, and Eric Jr., 12 months, told Us Weekly at a New York City event celebrating the family farmers who nurture the ingredients for Gerber baby food. “You have to find that time to connect with your partner.”

For the Deckers, that apparently means scheduling. “We plan these nights,” she added to Us. “I’ll send him a message and be like, ‘Babe, it’s on tonight!’”

Jessie elaborated that date nights can be anything from going to a bar and sharing a steak to seeing a movie, but they try to make them happen at least once a week.

“He has Tuesdays off, so we go on our dates,” she told at the event, adding she pops the kids’s favorite Gerber Graduates in the microwave before the sitter arrives. “You gotta make that time together. And if we don’t go out, we get in bed and share an entire bag of popcorn and watch a movie or TV and call it our Popcorn Party.”

Awww…so sweet! And relatable, because what tired mama can’t relate to just wanting to have a low-key night in every one in a while? Especially when, as she told, both of her kids get up throughout the night.

“One night my daughter woke up at four in the morning screaming ‘Mommy!’ I went in there because I thought she had a nightmare. She says, ‘Mommy! Orange juice!’ I’m like, ‘Who wants orange juice at four in the morning?’ And she adds, ‘Mommy, in my princess cup!’ What kind of demands are these?!”

Toddler demands, mama. Toddler demands.