Jessica Biel Opened Up About Starting Sex Ed With 2-Year-Old Son Silas
The Sinner star discussed how she and husband Justin Timberlake are prepping their son for a healthy relationship with his body and sex.
Jessica Biel and Justin Timberlake's son Silas may be just 2, but he's old enough to start learning about the birds and the bees! The Sinner star and TRYST co-founder appeared at the 2018 MAKERS Conference on Tuesday, February 6 with the CEO of WCG and CEO of Evofem Biosciences Saundra Pelletier and former Teen Vogue Editor-in-Chief Elaine Welteroth, and she opened up about how she and JT are already prepping their son for a healthy relationship with his body and his sexuality.
Answering Welteroth's question, "How do parents...pick up where sex education leaves off in the school system?" Jessica explained, "For me in my household, I have a two and a half year old and we're starting now. Well, just in terms of we're using technical terms and we're talking about when we shower together, and 'this is what I've got,' 'this is what you've got,' and you know we just talk about it. I know he's really young, but I really believe that you start it this early, that there's no shame. I don't want to tell him keep your private parts and this and that. ... It's a beautiful thing. You have it and mine's different and it's cool man and we have to respect ourselves and respect each other, so I believe it starts really young."
She also shared that she's a fan of finding a lighthearted way to tackle these often taboo topics. "I think I still go back to this idea that it doesn't have to be so serious," Jessica noted. "If you want to laugh and say vagina and laugh or say penis or whatever, well do it! Laugh and get it out, get the giggles out and then ask the real question that you know you have. I think that's always what happened to me when I was young. It's like you just, you could barely get past the giggles to ask the real question, which was a really probably important question that as a young person you needed to know."
And of course this thirst for concrete knowledge about physiology and sexuality continues well into adulthood. Jessica shared how she felt like she didn't have all the information she woul have liked to have about caring for her body to produce milk to nurse Silas. She also discussed the pressure to lose baby weight quickly and body and self-image issues like being ashamed of something like cervical fluid.
“Your body has so many different types of cervical fluid as you go through the month. You can tell when you’re actually ovulating if you know what to look for, if you touch it, grab it, and do all this crazy stuff,” she noted. “Now I know my body well enough that I can tell that if I’m not ready to have more kids, I’m not going to have sex on these days because I checked myself out and I know. And that to me makes me feel amazing because I don’t have to take the pill anymore, which I took for 13 to 15 years, something crazy like that.”
Props to Jessica Biel for sending such a powerful, healthy message not only to her little boy but to the MAKERS audience and other parents. When it comes to sexuality and personal wellness, the more knowledge we share, the more we're sure to empower the next generation.