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Jada Pinkett Smith Has Some Spot-On Parenting Advice for You

The actress says it's time to quit throwing shade and start supporting each other.

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Jada Pinkett Smith may have played a Stepford mom-shamer in the movie Bad Moms, but that's a far cry from what this hard-working mama is about in real life. When it comes to parenting, the actress—who has two children, Jaden and Willow, with husband Will Smith, plus a stepson from Will's previous marriage—thinks we should be celebrating and supporting all moms, whether we agree with their child-rearing methods or not.

"Motherhood is very difficult," she recently admitted to The Huffington Post. "I think it's one of the most underrated jobs. People talk about how much they appreciate motherhood, but in my opinion, it's not honored in the way that it should be."

So true!

One of the biggest challenges, according to Pinkett Smith, is that the work we do as parents is constantly changing. "Motherhood is brand new every time," she explained. "You might have it down with one child and then have another and that child needs something completely different and now you are learning all over again how to specifically mother that particular child because, what it might have taken to raise one child, another child needs something completely different."

Raise your hand if you learned this one the hard way. I know I have. Trying to adapt with each of my kids' ever-changing needs is a constant struggle. And that's why, Pinkett Smith says, we need to 86 the one-size-fits-all approach to motherhood, quit throwing shade, and focus on supporting each other, differing parenting styles be damned.

"There's no one cookie-cutout way to be a mother," she said. "So I think, as a mother and as a woman, trying to support other women in how they see it's best to mother their children is very important. You kind of have to release that perfectionism and you have to release that judgment in order for your kids to just develop in a healthy way."

Amen to that!

Hollee Actman Becker is a freelance writer, blogger, and a mom. Check out her website holleeactmanbecker.com for more, and then follow her on Twitter at @holleewoodworld.