In a new video posted to YouTube called "Good Enough," mom and vlogger Kristina Kuzmic shares a personal story that is bound to help anyone struggling with parent guilt.
Kuzmic recalls how 10 years ago, she was newly divorced with a 2- and 3-year-old, broke, overwhelmed, and depressed. "I was not in a good place," she says. But as if that weren't bad enough, the popular vlogger adds she had people in her life who were making her feel like a bad mom.
In a therapy session, Kuzmic also remembers admitting she felt like a crappy mother, citing that before her divorce, she cooked nutritious meals for her kids, and took them to parks, but now, they were subsisting on boxed meals and TV, while she hid in her room and cried.
In that moment, Kuzmic's therapist replied, to her surprise, that she was actually a wonderful mother. Recalling those words causes Kuzmic to break down.
Her therapist proceeded to tell her how amazing it was, that even at her rock bottom, she was still able to make sure the needs of her children were met. Omg. Are you tearing up, too? Kuzmic goes on to share that her therapist was impressed that even when she was so depressed, she still managed to keep it together in front of her kids.
"He took every single bad thing I said about myself and he turned it around," Kuzmic says, adding that he showed her that maybe she wasn't so bad of a mom after all. "Maybe I was just doing the best I could under the circumstances."
Kuzmic wants every parent to know that we can't be extraordinary every day; sometimes, we're just going to be okay. And that is "good enough."
Her message truly resonates with me. Because today, my kids are all home from school as is every other kid in the state of New Jersey. And they're watching Home Alone for the second time in 24 hours. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to spend as much quality time with them as I'd hoped, between work commitments, and the fact that our family recently adopted what I believe is the most high-maintenance dog in the Northeast.
But I love my kids so much, and like Kuzmic, I'm doing the best I can under the circumstances, as I'm sure you are too.r
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.