Dad's Viral Note to His Daughters' Future Boyfriends Is a Must-Read
Give it up for this amazing father, who put his own spin on the memes we see everywhere regarding dads' attitudes towards their daughters' boyfriends.
We've all seen the memes, the T-shirts, the bumper stickers from dads of daughters. They say things like "guns don't kill people, fathers with pretty daughters do"—but one father sees the problematic nature of those sayings.
J. Warren Welch, who shares "poetry, rants and curse words" online, recently went viral after sharing his own take on a letter to his daughters' future boyfriends. There are no shutgun references here—instead its a decidedly feminist message that puts the power in his daughters' hands.
"You'll have to ask them what their rules are," the dad wrote in an image shared to his Facebook page. "I'm not raising my little girls to be the kind of women who need their daddy to act like a creepy, possessive bada*s in order for them to be treated with respect... You will respect them, and if you don't, I promise they won't need my help putting you back in your place."
The image has been liked and shared thousands of times. Warren is raising five daughters in a blended family, according to TODAY, and while he understands why fathers feel that protective urge where their kids are concerned, he's also doing whatever he can to raise daughters who realize they're in control of their own lives.
If you appreicate this dad's feminist perspective, you can follow him on social media, where he freqenutely posts no-holds-barred takes on a whole range of issues—the intersection of feminism and fatherhood is something he'll explore going forward. "I believe I'm going to stay on the subjects of fatherhood and feminism for a little bit, which from my perspective, are actually the same thing," he wrote alongside a photo of a piece he wrote on the subject.
"I want my daughters to feel empowered to be WHO THEY ARE," the piece reads. "And if that means the mission field, or being a housewife with too many kids, or whatever fulfills THEM...THAT is the life I want for them...and that's what being a feminist means to me."
Can we get a "heck yes" for this awesome dad? Those girls are very lucky to have such an incredible feminist role model in their lives!