A dad's message about how he treats his ex-wife with respect and admiration to set a good example for their sons is going viral. Billy Flynn's post on the Love What Matters Facebook page explaining how he still celebrated his ex-wife's birthday has been shared more than 163,000 times. But not everyone agrees with this dad's approach.
"It's my ex-wife's birthday today so I got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast," Flynn explains, adding: "Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So ima break it down for you all."
Flynn goes on to write, "I'm raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced."
He ends his post by offering this advice to exes everywhere, "So if you aren't modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your sh-t together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you. Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever."
Many commenters applauded Flynn. "Wow. That is really big of you and I mean that in all sincerity," one wrote. "If more divorced people could get along like you and your former spouse, I think we'd have fewer messed up kids. Congratulations for being a very big man who is assisting his former wife by raising your children the right way. Togethe."
But not everyone agreed with how this dad-of-two treats his ex. One commenter said, "I'm friends with my ex too, but there's better ways to 'set examples' without having to make them breakfast on their b- day!!! I call that 'confusion!' Sorry....Over the top!!"
Even if you don't agree with exactly how Flynn goes about things, the point is that he is trying to do the right thing, and show the couple's boys that he still respects their mom. Details aside, that's clearly better than demeaning her, or making it clear to the kids he can't stand her, which will only scar them and sabotage their future relationships. So I say, right on!
What's your take?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.