Singer Jessie James Decker is known for being candid with her fans -- and she didn't hold back when talking about the baby boy she's expecting, plus life with her daughter and NFL-star hubby.
Her pregnancies have felt so different...
"With my daughter, Vivianne [now 18 months], I had horrible morning sickness. I threw up every day, sometimes twice, for five months, which then made me insanely hungry. So I'd stuff my face to try not to feel nauseated, and I gained 55 pounds. On my 5'1" frame, that was brutal! This time has been much smoother. I sometimes even forget I'm pregnant except for all the moving around he's doing in there!"
...and close together!
"My first thought when I found out I was expecting again was, Oh, my God, we just did this! Vivianne was only 8 months old, and I was just starting to feel like my normal self. And here we go again!"
She's thrilled to have both a girl and a boy
"My husband [New York Jets wide receiver Eric Decker] and I both thought we wanted a boy first, but since having Vivianne, I couldn't imagine not having another girl. Eric definitely wanted a boy, though, and as soon as I found out we were having a son, I was jumping up and down. It's the best of both worlds. And now there will be no pressure for a third one!"
Pregnancy style is a challenge for her too
"I'm all about embracing my bump. But when I have a short amount of time to get ready and I put on multiple things before I can find something that fits, I get flustered."
Her first labor didn't go as planned
"I was told by my amazing doctor numerous times that I had the hips to push out a baby, and I was all set on a natural birth. But my daughter got stuck and flipped upside down, so I had to have a C-section. I was shocked. To be honest, it took a while to get over not having that instant skin-to-skin moment. It's okay to be sad if things don't go the way you had hoped."
She can't wait to meet this little guy
"I hear boys are wilder. I'm not sure how that's possible, because my daughter is a wild woman. I swear she's me incarnate. I was crazy full of energy as a kid and so is she. Vivianne is also a girl's girl, wanting to wear pretty dresses all the time. Eric has pro athletes on both sides of his family -- plus I used to play sports -- so I'm sure our son will develop athletic ability. Eric can't wait to be able to throw a football with him."
She's looking forward to nursing
"I really loved breastfeeding the first time around. It's such a wonderful, intimate thing to share with your child. I remember that full, happy look Vivianne would get when she was done. I also love all the cuddling during the baby stage, like when a baby snuggles up under your chin. And since Vivianne has so much energy that she won't let me hold her for long, I'm particularly excited for that part again."
She's not opposed to breastfeeding selfies
"People get upset about nursing photos, but they are okay with photos of half-naked (or even all-naked!) women on social media! That's messed up. In photos of me nursing, there's probably less cleavage than what I've shown on the red carpet. Sharing breastfeeding photos online is a good example for other women who want to nurse. Nursing is hard. It doesn't always come easily, and we need to support each other."
She isn't a fan of new-mom exhaustion
"Right now Eric is the one who gets up with Vivi in the middle of the night, since I'm having trouble sleeping with my huge bump. That man can run on three hours of sleep. But before we got married, I'd sleep until noon. Mama needs her sleep!"
She and Eric are their own pro team
"At first, we'll probably divide and conquer. I'll be taking care of the newborn and Eric will be hitting up the playground with Vivi to burn off her energy. It will be great. He and I always seem to figure it out."
She has no interest in drastically dropping the baby weight
"The first months are a time to focus on your newborn, not on losing weight. I know some women slim down through nursing, but with Vivianne my body held on to some extra pounds to make milk, and that was fine. It took me eight months to start to look like myself again, and then of course I got pregnant. I think the old saying that it takes ten months to put the baby weight on and another ten months to lose it is probably very accurate."
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Originally published in the September 2015 issue of American Baby magazine.