Do you need to shave down there before the big day? Is it better to have an episiotomy or a tear? Let a labor nurse tell you everything you want to know, but may not have the guts to ask.
How can you tell the difference between what's normal discharge (and for many of us there's a lot more than when we're not pregnant) and a leak of amniotic fluid? Most of the time, vaginal discharge is creamy, mucousy or sticky, and doesn't smell bad. Most of the time, amniotic fluid is watery, hopefully clear but sometimes yellow, green or with white specks. It's usually easy to tell the difference between discharge and amniotic fluid but it's not so easy to tell the difference between amniotic fluid and urine.
Believe it or not, one of the most common reasons women come to the maternity unit is because they're leaking something. Most of the time, it's not amniotic fluid but— you guessed it—pee. When you've got a baby pressing on your bladder, sometimes it leaks.
If you start leaking fluid, put on a pad and ask yourself some questions:
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If it looks like pee, smells like pee and you can stop the flow by squeezing muscles or getting off the trampoline, it's probably pee. If not, it might be amniotic fluid. It still might be pee but please call the doctor/midwife to discuss it. A true amniotic leak can't be controlled, usually continues leaking once it starts (but not always), is generally clear (with the occasional white specks) unless there's meconium and may or may not be followed up with contractions.
Your doctor/midwife should know about it if your discharge is anything other than what you're used to. When in doubt, call. If you get a major leak, your pants will be wet, your car seat or couch will be wet, you'll make a splash at the grocery store and there won't be any doubt in your mind. Call your doctor/midwife anyway and get ready for labor.
Tough choice, right? Hopefully, you won't have to experience either and most of the time, you won't be the one to make that choice.
Most women come in saying they don't want an episiotomy and most doctor/midwifes don't do them routinely. They save that for those times when the perineum (vaginal tissue) just won't stretch anymore and they really, really, need to get that baby out. Then they make a snip and delivery is usually pretty quick after that. Lots of women have tears and they're generally easy to repair. Most practitioners prefer a minor tear to an episiotomy and are very skilled at sewing them up.
Ask your doctor/midwife if he/she routinely does them. If he/she's pro-episiotomy and it's an idea you're opposed to (and most of us are), find someone else. It's one of the last decisions that get made in delivery and unfortunately, one you won't be participating in. You're going to be very busy pushing, pushing, pushing and if you need an episiotomy, your practitioner will probably just go for it.
Neither waxing nor shaving is necessary or expected. We see it all from full-on Brazilians to full growth. We don't shave patients in labor anymore (except for a very small area right over the top of the pubic area prior to cesarean delivery) and the hair doesn't get in our way. We just don't care about the hair. Really.
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