Reality star Tila Tequila is four-months pregnant, and she's hardly been shy about sharing every detail of her pregnancy on social media since making the announcement—an approach pretty much in keeping with the way she's always behaved.
This week, she posted a topless pregnancy photo to her Facebook page, with the caption: "A pregnant woman's body is a beautiful thing! You should never be ashamed of such a blessing! I'm just here working in my office on my new website, and my jean shorts busted open since I'm now growing at a rapid rate! Lol!"
Let it be said that Tila's bump selfie shows hardly more than many other celebs' every-day paparazzi fare. (Did you catch what Kim Kardashian wore to push a stroller in public yesterday, for instance?)
But I don't mind saying that "shame" about my pregnant body is not the thing keeping me from posting semi-nude pregnancy pictures to Facebook. Words like discretion, professionalism, humility, maturity, and general common sense come to mind.
That said, I did decide to take professional maternity photos as a way of documenting my pregnancy—something I expect will be a once-in-a-lifetime experience for me. And yes, I did share them on my social networks, with the anticipatory cringe that always comes with posting something that could be seen as self promoting, fishing for compliments from friends, or generally sharing TMI. Publicly, friends were more than kind and generous in their assessments, and I'm happy I have the images for posterity.
But that's not to say that I presented those images to the public without the expectation of some controversy. Months ago, my mom announced she thought maternity photos were weird, a private family time made less intimate with the intervention of a third party, and later shared semi-publicly on the Internet. (That's a standard generational divide from the last era to the Facebook one.) Often too, maternity photos—professional or otherwise—just come out hokey or awkward. And, of course, the whole pursuit could reasonably seen as overall kind of vain and maybe narcissistic. After all, a bump selfie is still a selfie—and it's not necessarily cloistered in a separate category and protected as "beautiful" just because, as Tila said in her post, "A pregnant woman's body is a beautiful thing!"
But I'd love to hear your thoughts: How do you feel about sharing intimate maternity photos online?
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Tila Tequila image courtesy of Facebook