This Dad's Powerful Sketch of His Wife's Miscarriage Will Hit You Right in the Heart
The simple yet stunning sketch captures the anguish of losing a pregnancy.
A powerful sketch of a private and deeply emotional moment for one Michigan couple who had just suffered a miscarriage is going viral. Created by dad Curtis Wiklund, the drawing shows him and his wife Jordin holding each other in anguish and sobbing after losing a pregnancy at nine weeks.
Today reports the Wiklunds learned they were miscarrying in July. The parents-of-two managed to keep it together in the doctor's office upon finding out their baby had no heartbeat, but then fell into pieces in one another's arms in the front seat of their car in the parking lot.
"It was pure grief," the artist and photographer dad explained to Today about how he and Jordin felt that day. "It was no bitterness, no irritation. Not madness at each other. It was mutual, shared, 100 percent grief and crying and sadness." He also said about the baby they believed was a girl, "It wasn't a fictitious loss. It was our daughter, who was very much there earlier and we had just lost her."
Wiklund said on Facebook he didn't know how else to cope with his feelings other than draw.
He shared the compelling sketch, with this caption, "This was the day we found out we miscarried. It's strange to share because it's such a quiet thing. Most don't talk about it." He added, "I hope by sharing it, those others out there who are quietly hurting, some far worse than we are, are comforted knowing at least, that you are not alone."
Clearly the sketch is hitting a chord with many people online, as dozens of commenters on Facebook have opened up about their own experiences with loss in reaction to the post. And dare I say, even if you haven't experienced loss, the sketch is impactful. Because what I see most is a couple leaning on each other for support in a dark, dark time. And every relationship has those moments. They are tough to even think about, let alone share with the Internet. So kudos to the Wiklunds for opening up about their pain, and giving more of us permission to feel our own, more openly.
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Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.