Rapper Remy Ma shared the story of her lost pregnancy in solidarity with other women who have experienced unviable pregnancies.
Rapper Remy Ma and her husband Papoose are opening up about their heartbreaking experience with ectopic pregnancy. The couple talked on The Real about the recent, devastating pregnancy loss.
Papoose says finding out this pregnancy wasn't viable was "the worst day" of his life. He grieved for the child he'd already begun picking out names for, and worried about his wife's safety, as she was headed into emergency surgery.
Remy admits this wasn't the first time she suffered an ectopic pregnancy, which occurs when a fertilized egg attaches outside of the uterus, low in the cervix, in the Fallopian tubes, the abdomen, or the ovaries. This type of pregnancy is not viable, and can pose a major danger to a mother's life.
In the case of the Love and Hip Hop star, the first time, the embryo implanted in one of her Fallopian tubes, and it had to be removed. This time, doctors had to remove her other tube, limiting the couple's reproductive options to IVF in the future.
Remy previously shared a heartbreaking video of herself in the hospital on Instagram. In the short clip, she said she visited a baby store recently, and even bought a pregnancy journal. All to have these baby dreams end.
"First, thank you to everyone that sent their congrats as well as condolences," she said in the video. "This was a hard time for me & my husband & we thought long and hard before deciding to share this part of our lives with you all."
"I was totally against it but in a fit of crying @papoosepapoose said " you are not the only one going thru this , we will get thru it"" Remy shared. "[It] made me realize how many women like myself experience the same thing and don't have a strong partner by their side to say it will be alright. So I'm here to tell anyone going thru a similar situation that it is not over and God has the last say."
She even gave a shoutout to the doctor who helped her through the medical procedure: "And to Dr. Razmzan , who came to perform my surgery at 5am, who tried his best to leave me scarless and succeeded, who eased any fears I had- THANK YOU, & don't retire yet cuz once we find the right in vitro dr you have to deliver my babies 😘#BlackLove #RemyMa #MeetTheMackies"
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I love how her message is ultimately hopeful. Although Remy and Papoose have suffered unthinkable heartbreak, they still believe that kids are possible. That they will have their babies. And that even if their path to parenthood isn't what they envisioned, and even though it's been paved with pain, one day, they will hold their children in their arms.
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.