Pregnancy Sex Drive: Is Yours Normal?
All of this talk of women's so-called low libidos, and the desperate need for a female Viagra (aka Sheagra) to save sexless marriages worldwide, got us thinking about the craziness that is the female sex drive. It's all over the place: Everyone has a friend who's a Samantha, a self-confessed panty-dropper (and proud of it!), and a Charlotte, a sexually-conservative girl that other friends call a prude behind her back. Of course there's a huge spectrum of Carries and Mirandas in between.
Once you add pregnancy hormones into the mix, women's sex drives go completely haywire and it's a bit like spinning the big wheel on The Price is Right—you have no idea what you're going to land on. With extra blood flow to your vajayjay and estrogen levels spiking, you may suddenly start thinking about sex every second of the day, and even during your sleep with super-charged erotic dreams (with guest stars like Ryan Gosling and Bradley Cooper!). Instead of waiting for your guy to initiate, your sex drive might be in such overdrive that you're all over him as soon as he enters the door. For that, he will love you and want you to forever be pregnant!
Jessica Simpson told Elle magazine that when she was expecting her first child her sex drive was "unstoppable." She couldn't get enough, and the sex was amplified to an 11. "The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever!" she (over)shared.
On the flip side, Snooki, who clearly knows her way around the smush room, had her pregnancy sex drive take a total nosedive. While due with son Lorenzo, she told In Touch that she and fiancé Jionni's sex life was "hardly there!" Fans everywhere worried that their beloved Snooki had changed forever when she explained, "I just feel too icky and gross. I'm not in the mood!"
How is it possible that you (or Snooki!) could easily go from having sex practically every day to dreading the mere thought of anything sexual? The scientific answer is that the progesterone in your body is telling it to just say no to sex, while the estrogen is making sure you're ready and willing. So it just depends which you have more of at any given time.
To confuse yourself even more, you could be sleep-deprived, your breasts may be sore ("Don't touch!"), you might still be nauseous even if you're way past your first trimester, you might not know how to maneuver this new curvilicious body of yours, and your hormonally-challenged psyche may be sabotaging your usually high self-esteem. All of this can make you doubt whether your guy still sees you as sexy. (Trust me, he does!)
So, for those of you who are wondering whether your pregnancy sex drive is normal—it is. Whether you're in the mood for non-stop sexy times, or you'd rather close down the shop for a trimester or two, you're just dealing with the unpredictability of pregnancy hormones.
If you want to boost your sex drive, though, read this. It really could help. And if you're having the best, most orgasmic sex of your life? Enjoy!
TELL US: Has your pregnancy sex drive increased, lowered, or stayed exactly the same?
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