Mom's Reaction to Her Baby Being Born With Down Syndrome Is So Powerful
A mom of five from Texas named Amber DeAnn Rojas is making headlines for her beautiful birth story. While pregnant, she felt like her fifth L.O. was going to be especially unique.
"We all thought I was having a boy — all of us! But I also knew that something was different," Rojas told Love What Matters. "I didn’t know why or what, but I always told my husband, ‘This baby was going to be different.’ My pregnancy wasn’t different, but I knew something was. He kept saying it was because we didn’t know what the baby was, which is why I felt that way. Toward the end of my pregnancy I could feel our baby breathe which was soooo different. No one believed me, but if you have been pregnant as much as I have been, you learn a lot about your body. It was fast and consistent. Not like kicks or hiccups."
The day came that she welcomed her daughter Amadeus in an "amazing clear water birth," and Rojas said she knew as soon as she looked at the "sweet baby" in her arms. "I had so many emotions; and as soon as I looked down, I saw it. I saw it in my baby’s face. I thought to myself… my baby has Down syndrome," she told Love What Matters. "My family said, ‘Well what is it?!’ I totally forgot we didn’t know if it was a boy or a girl. I looked down, and to my surprise it was a girl! My thoughts of her having Down syndrome went away because I was so excited we were having another girl!"
Rojas' midwife confirmed that the baby girl had many Down syndrome markers. Rojas says she didn't know much about the condition, but she wasn't fazed. "In that moment, I was like, 'I knew it! I KNEW IT!'" she tells Parents.com. "II knew something was different when I was pregnant and then immediately became a worker bee. I wanted to know everything they knew about babies with Down syndrome, so I could best care for my daughter."
At the same time, Rojas emphasizes that she's just exactly her other babies in many ways. "She needs milk," she explains. "She cries when she’s wet or uncomfortable. She smiles when she sees us, and we love her fierce! God gave us Amadeus for a reason! Our family was going a million different ways, and Amadeus has brought us together. To us, she is perfect! We don’t see her diagnosis or her label... We see Amadeus Reign Rojas."
Of sharing the details of Amadeus' condition to her older siblings, Rojas tells Parents.com, "They love her greatly, and I’ve tried to best explain what Down syndrome means to her and us, but I also didn’t want my kids or anyone else to treat her differently. To me, she’s just like all of us. But they were concerned others would make fun of Amadeus as she got older, and the best way I could explain is the fact that all of us have been made fun of at one time or another, and we don’t have Down syndrome. But it’s our job to help educate others and to lead by example for Ami so that she has the life as we all do, and we can’t prevent others from being mean. They love her, they love sharing her story with their friends. And they are so excited to be apart of the Down syndrome community!"
Ultimately, Rojas says she sees each of her kids as having their own unique needs—especially for love and acceptance. "Kids with the diagnosis of Down syndrome just want to be looked at and treated just like everyone one else, and they deserve that right. I will always do my part and share and educate those who are open to learn and go on this journey along with us as we all start to see things from a different perspective."
Congratulations to the Rojas family!