Sure, most pregnant women have wanted to kick their partners out of the delivery room for one reason or another (i.e. he's too squeamish and you're a little too busy to take care of him too; he's making inappropriate and/or lame jokes to try to break the tension and keep your mind off the pain; or he's squeezing your hand even tighter than you're squeezing his). But would you ever really consider banning him? Superior Court Judge Sohail Mohammed recently ruled to uphold a mother's right of privacy and the right to control her body, which says "she is neither required to notify the baby's father that she is going into labor nor required to admit him into the delivery room against her wishes," according to the New Jersey Law Journal.
This is a historical case because this subject has never been litigated anywhere else in the United States. In the case at hand, the couple—who are not married—is estranged, but technically this ruling could set precedence for all couples throughout the United States.
The judge felt that if his ruling was in favor of the father being allowed in against the mother's will, he noted: "It would create practical concerns where the father's unwelcomed presence could cause additional stress on the mother and child. Moreover, such a finding would also lead to a slippery slope where the mother's interest could be subjugated to that of the father's."
So it seems that the act of carrying the baby inside you actually does come with (even more) privileges. I can't imagine not having my husband beside me when I gave birth to my son. He was the right amount of supportive, without being an annoying rah-rah cheerleader. He made the best hospital playlist to pump me up when I needed it most. As cliché as it sounds, he was my rock.
But I agree that a woman should have the right to decide who is—and isn't—with her during that sacred time when you're giving birth. The last thing you want is something else to cause tension in an already stressful situation that could spike your blood pressure and put your baby in jeopardy. In my opinion, if a husband or partner is abusive, or hasn't been there to support you throughout your pregnancy, his mere sperm donation should not grant him a golden ticket into that delivery room. So I'm glad this judge, who's a dude, agrees!
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