Country singer, Jana Kramer took to Instagram on Saturday, December 9th, to open up about a subject many women have felt the heartbreak of—misscariage. The 34-year-old posted an Instagram photo of herself alongside an ultrasound photo, with a heart-filled caption addressing her decision to no longer "suffer silently"—a message she hopes will empower others.
According to Kramer's Instagram post, the mother of 1-year-old, Jolie Rae Caussin has suffered a total of 3 miscarriages. "Today I am 1-3. I debated posting this for the exact reason why it’s a silent struggle. I don’t want I’m sorry or sympathy. I just don’t want to feel alone. And I know I’m not," Kramer wrote.
The "Why Ya Wanna" singer continued to shed light on her experiences while explaining how the stigma around miscarriage is one she is ready to change. "This unfortunately isn’t my first loss. When I first found out I was pregnant I wanted to shout it from the rooftop but I know for reasons like this we have to wait. So because we don’t tell many, we have to suffer silently...and suffering silently was my thing in the past, but it’s not now. For the women out there who have miscarried in the past and need support and a place to grieve their little one lost or to those in the thick of it like me who are currently grieving and in pain, let us all be there for each other," Kramer wrote on her Instagram.
The actress has spoken publically about her bumpy marriage to former football player Mike Caussin after he allegedly cheated on her with multiple women. Although the two separated one year after their wedding in May of 2015, they continue to work on their marriage for their child. Kramer acknowledges in her post how losing an unborn child can emotionally impact men as well as women, "You don’t need to feel alone and maybe that’s me talking to myself but if you need a place to share, I’m here for you...and all of us are (and guys too. We sometimes silence your voice because you feel bad to express how it’s made u feel so let this be a safe place for you too)."
Kramer closed her statement with a link to A Little Bit Fancy—a blog written by her friend Kristen Brust who is a voice of guidance for her and can be for other women too. "And because I don’t have all the words to say because I’m knee deep in crying and trying to listen to God, my girlfriend @alittlebitfancy says them for me. But in her Words and her story on her loss. It’s powerful and strong and those who have suffered a loss I truly feel u can heal reading her blog. I know for me it helped. Head over to her page. Her link is in the bio and also in my bio. I love you guys. #yourenotalone," Kramer wrote.
We applaud Kramer's strength to be a voice of advocacy during her time of loss. Everyone has the right to mourn in the way that's best for them, yet no one deserves to suffer silently.