Why Moms Are Sharing This Miscarriage Ultrasound Photo
A Facebook user posted a shot of her ultrasound along with a completely heartbreaking caption—and while it's one of the saddest things we've seen, it's also touching other women in a really important way.
Like most pregnant women, Emily Christine Fauver did plenty of research before heading to her eight-week doctor's appointment. She spent time searching for images of other ultrasounds from that same juncture in pregnancy—between the photos she found online and the ones her friends posted, she had a pretty good idea of what to expect at her own appointment.
But Fauver's ultrasound looked very different from the ones she had seen in the past, and she knew even before she was told that she was having a miscarriage. Most ultrasounds show a forming fetus at this stage, but Fauver "saw nothing"—she couldn't make out her baby's shape, and her ultrasound tech remained quiet and left the room.
Fauver posted a shot of the ultrasound, and the image is going viral—but we suspect that has more to do with the incredibly raw message she posted as the image's caption.
"I was sent home to let my body naturally run its course and it did. I felt everything but had nothing to show for it. My doctor didn't let me leave without warning and she was right about everything. But what she didn't warn me about was everything that would happen after the initial heartbreak and pain," Fauver wrote on her personal Facebook page. "She didn't tell me I was going to be reminded for weeks to come because my body was going to take that long to 'clean out.' She didn't tell me I was going to have to watch my husband weep. She didn't tell me how hard it was going to be to tell my mom what had happened. She didn't tell me that my body was going to continue thinking it was pregnant for weeks to come."
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Fauver is not the only woman who has ever been completely unprepared for the physical and emotional side effects of undergoing a miscarriage, and the reason behind this is simple: Miscarriages are rarely discussed. Despite that fact that a significant portion of pregnancies don't make it past the first trimester, we don't often hear personal stories from women who have suffered pregnancy loss. The topics doesn't usually come up on TV shows or in movies, and while tons of brave women (including plenty of influential celebrities) have been sharing their stories, it's still very much a taboo topic.
That's probably why Fauver's post has been shared close to 40,000 times: It's an uncommonly open account of what really happens when you lose a pregnancy.
We hope writing this was healing for her. We know it couldn't have been easy to reveal such personal information, but we also know that it helped so many women out there realize they are not alone. And that's huge.