A miscarriage is a tremendous loss no matter how early you are in your pregnancy, but it's a loss that is often mourned privately. Though there's nothing that can erase what happened, sometimes it helps to hear from others who have been through it. Here, celebrities describe their experience with miscarriage.
Actress Ashley Williams wrote a stirringly honest blog a few months after her painful miscarriage. “The Jim Gaffigan Show” star shares that following her heartbreak, she was shocked to learn how common pregnancy loss actually is. “If 25 percent of my peers are currently experiencing miscarriages right alongside me, why wasn’t I prepared? Why don’t we talk about it? Why was I feeling embarrassed, broken, like a walking wound?” Williams wonders in her blog, adding, “Not many people talk about a pregnancy until 12 weeks gestation for fear they will lose the baby or choose to terminate for any number of complex reasons. What’s the point in telling people who never knew you were pregnant the depressing news that you’re not anymore?” She writes, “My (still bloated) gut feeling is that something even more painful silences us — the fear that we, as women, are failures.” The mom to a toddler son, Gus, urges women to speak out about miscarriages, writing, “I invite you to start, with me, a vocal army of the 25 percenters who can normalize miscarriage in the social sphere. You are not broken. You did nothing wrong. You are strong, you are brave, and there is hope.”
It took Lady Antebellum singer Hillary Scott nearly a year to speak publicly about her miscarriage, and she still wasn’t able to talk about her loss without getting very emotional. “ This is something that is still not talked about very often. I also feel like there’s this pressure that you’re just supposed to be able to snap your fingers, and continue to walk through life like it never happened,” the country star told “Good Morning America.” She adds she is a “different mom” to her 2-year-old daughter Eisele after her miscarriage, hugging her as much as possible, and just relishing the little moments. Scott’s other solace from her pain has been making new music about what she went through.
"We can only accept it," the Italian model and TV presenter wrote on her WhoSay page. Canalis, who dated George Clooney from 2009 to 2011, was expecting her first child with boyfriend and orthopedic surgeon Brian Perri when she suffered the loss. She offered words of support to other women who have gone through miscarriage. "I just want to say that I feel you close, if you are suffering as I am doing. We can't deny it, it's like an incessant sorrow you can't get rid of. I just want to say to all those women who are going through it to stay strong because life goes on and it is nobody's fault and nature acts in incomprehensible ways."
The "Duck Dynasty" star revealed she had a miscarriage in 2002, after giving birth to sons Reed and Cole. "I was about eight to 10 weeks along when I miscarried, just enough time to be excited about it and start telling everyone," Robertson told Closer Weekly. "I'd heard of tubal pregnancies for years, but didn't really understand the mental anguish of actually having to go in and have someone remove what could've been your child." The reality star was concerned that she might not be able to have any more children, but she and husband Jase conceived their daughter Mia just three months later.
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After the birth of twin boys Eddy and Nelson in 2010, the singer revealed she was originally expecting triplets, but lost one baby early on in the pregnancy. "He chose to let go to give space to his brothers to grow," she said during an in-depth interview with a French news station.
The journalist and TV host has a miscarriage in 2010 at age 37, when she was just about two months along. "We actually [hadn't] been trying that long. I don't know that I took it as seriously as I should have because it happened so fast," she said during an appearance on "The View." "But then when I heard the doctor say there was no heartbeat, it was like bam, like a knife through the heart." The experience left her feeling like "a complete failure," she said, and devastated that it might happen again. Three years later, though, Ling gave birth to daughter Jett Ling Song, and then a second daughter, Ray Ling Song, arrived in 2016.
The singer opened up to Now Magazine about the heartache of experiencing three miscarriages before giving birth to daughter Natashya. "Going through this horror, I was humbled by what it was to be a woman," she said. "I could be a female icon and successful breadwinner, but my body couldn't carry a child." Amos said those miscarriages led her to decide against having more children after Natashya arrived.
The actress revealed to People that she miscarried just one month into her first pregnancy. "The fetus just died. It was called a spontaneous abortion," Alley said. "I wasn't far enough along to feel the baby kick, so the loss I felt was more mental than physical. In those few weeks you mock up an entire life -- who the baby is going to look like, where it's going to go to college. That's the loss we suffered." She and her husband, Parker Stevenson, went on to adopt son William True Stevenson and daughter Lillie Price Stevenson before the couple's divorce in 1997.
"It was horrendous and something I would not wish on my worst enemy," the singer said about losing her unborn son during the sixth month of pregnancy. "It's something that I still haven't dealt with.... But it's not something that you get over." That was Allen's second pregnancy loss. Afterward, she went on to give birth to two healthy daughters.
"It is a difficult time," the actor said about he and wife Deborra-Lee Furness' infertility struggles. "The miscarriage thing -- apparently it happens to one in three pregnancies -- but it's very, very rarely talked about.... It's almost secretive. But it's a good thing to talk about. It's more common and it's tough, there's a grieving process you have to go through." The couple went on to adopt son Oscar Maximillian and daughter Ava Eliot.
"She was so festive and smiling, obviously for the cameras, and spending time with everyone. And then, literally, at night, [she was] crying herself to sleep," the star said about wife Mariah Carey, after she suffered a miscarriage in 2008.
The singer, who suffered a miscarriage several years before welcoming daughter Blue Ivy in 2012, said she coped by writing music. "I went into the studio and wrote the saddest song I've ever written in my life. And it was actually the first song I wrote for my album. And it was the best form of therapy for me, because it was the saddest thing I've ever been through."
"Not until you really go through it do you understand what it means [to have a miscarriage]," the star revealed on her talk show, "Bethenny." "It's not really about me and my experience, it's just kind of about being able to talk about it and women knowing that it's so common -- and it's not their fault."
"We were crushed," the actress told People about miscarrying after conceiving via IVF. "Up till then, I thought simply because it was time and I wanted to have a baby, it would work out."