From left, guest Castiglia with the Pump and Dump moms
Social media has made humor a constant undercurrent in the average mom's day, but it can be beyond therapeutic to get together with real friends "IRL" as my kids would say and watch something funny happen right before your eyes. That's the beauty of The Pump and Dump show, which a few of us from Parents caught in New York City not long ago. There is something about seeing other moms (and a few brave dads) laughing uncontrollably at the same crazy stuff that you've noticed happening in your own life that is very freeing--and more powerful than getting your laughs watching YouTube.
The PND team, Shayna Ferm, a comedian and mother of two, and MC Doula (aka Tracey Tee), mother of one, host an evening packed with inappropriate lyrics set to live music, games (such as a motherhood-themed version of "Never Have I Ever") and other audience interaction, and often a local guest comic who is also a mom. In New York it was the hilarious Carolyn Castiglia, whose riff on dating as a single mom was upstaged only by her own freestyle rap to audience members' anonymously contributed confessions of "The Most F----d Up Thing My Kid Did This Week." (See a sample of mom confessions here.)
Ferm and her "coach" MC Doula are on tour now, leaving their kids at home in Denver, so join their audience of "breeders" (their words) if you can. Songs include "Eat Your F---ing Food," and "When I Die, I Want to Come Back as a Dad." Yes, the F word features prominently here. I was counting the number of times it was used but was laughing so hard I lost track. Underlying the irreverent lyrics is a message of acceptance for all our many mommy shortcomings and an embrace of all kinds of mom. "We have placenta-eating moms and moms who've never even tried a cloth diaper. We just all have to remember that we are doing the best that we can," Ferm said at one point. Or, to quote her lyrics: "You're an awesome mom and you're not alone. You're doing fine. Just pour yourself a whiskey during bath time."
Can't get to Chicago, Mill Valley, or Denver, where the show is playing this fall? Download the tunes, gather a few friends, decide on a signature cocktail and have a listening party. Keep the tissues handy—you'll laugh until you cry.
Here's a video from another fun mom, Honest Toddler's Bunmi Laditan:
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