Sibling Revelry: How My Sibling Bond Keeps Me Afloat

Today is Erev (or the eve of) Rosh Hashanah, the start of the Jewish new year—rosh meaning head and shana meaning year. (Super literal, right?) I'll be heading home for the holiday, but this year is different. It's the first time I'll play the role of only child since my siblings are living large—my sister abroad in London and my brother on the national tour of a show.

Knowing that they won't be in their usual seats beside me in synagogue or next to me at the table makes going home for the holiday a little sad. Sure, it's home. Love to Mom and Dad. But I feel like a lone wolf without her pack. It's this reflection that made me realize how lucky I am to feel bound to my siblings—to feel like I'm not quite complete without them. My sister challenges me like no one can. My brother is truly my best friend; no one understands me like he does (or makes me laugh quite as hard).

It's actually this unbreakable sibling bond, the inexplicable connection, that is the driving force of the movie The Skeleton Twins that just came out September 19. This isn't a family flick, so plan this one for date night—better yet sibling's night out. Watching the serious side of comic geniuses Bill Hader and Kristen Wiig as a pair of fraternal twins whose lives-gone-awry can only be saved by each other evokes that tethered feeling that only siblings know.

This movie and my half-empty feeling reminds me how important it is to make an effort to keep the sibling bond strong. It doesn't just happen because you're share genes. My parents sent us the message that family is the most important thing in the world. Growing up, my brother and sister and I clung to that and to each other. We are the secret-keepers (from who stole the cookie from the jar to how a date went). We are the trouble-makers (still not-so-secretly poking fun at our parents). We are the entertainers (making each other laugh when we would rather cry or singing in harmony). Parents are the captains, guiding us through clear skies or rough waters, but siblings are the anchors that keep us strong and feeling safe. Around the new year I typically resolve to appreciate my siblings more and be a bit kinder. While there is always room to improve, I can actually look back on this year and think to myself Good work. Now let's raise the bar.

Whether you're firstborn, middle child, last-born, or only child, birth order can have a big effect on your personality and behavior.

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