If tension between you and your spouse is up and satisfaction with your marriage is down, you are not alone. Many studies show that the stress involved in becoming parents can throw even the most solid marriages for a loop. As overjoyed as you may be about the birth of your baby, you or your spouse may also feel isolated, exhausted, incompetent, angry, and resentful about the way the event has changed your lives, and these emotions can chip away at marital happiness.
It's also highly likely that even though the doctor gave you the green light to resume intercourse a few months ago, you may still feel far from sexy. That can leave Dad feeling rejected and Mom feeling like a failure. But the fact is, very few women have fully recovered their sex drive six months after giving birth. Besides the fact that the baby is sapping all a mother's extra energy, her hormones are not quite back to normal levels.
No matter how you feel, it's very important that you communicate with your partner, so resentment and feelings of inadequacy don't build up. Here's how to stay close amid the chaos. It's one of the nicest things you can do for baby-and yourselves!
If your attempts to improve your relationship with your spouse don't seem to be helping, don't hesitate to see a therapist. Counseling has a much better chance of improving a marriage under stress than saving one that has fallen to pieces.