Whether it's because they have the perfect blow-out at school drop-off or always seem to be throwing Pinterest-approved parties for their kids, some moms just seem like they have their act together 24/7. The fact is, no one's perfect, but the illusion of flawlessness definitely leaves some women feeling like they're falling short somehow. But here's the thing: If you identify as a "hot mess mom," you're so not alone. A post from Danielle Silverstein and Farrah Maliavsky, the duo behind the blog Where the Eff Is My Handbook, is going viral, because it's just all too relatable.
Shared originally on January 25, the post was written by Silverstein, and accompanies a shot of a kitchen sink overflowing with dishes. "Ok, full disclosure: I really AM a hot-mess mom," Silverstein declares. "I am consistently five steps behind where I should be in the world of responsible adulting. Like, for real. Never once have I thought to myself, 'OMG, I think I’m actually tackling this whole parenthood thing.' Nope. Not once."
She goes on to say that sure, she thinks of herself as a "good mom," but she doesn't "have it all together by any stretch of the imagination." But she's realizing "that's ok. ... I’m not so sure having it together and being a good mom are even synonymous. I don’t think it’s any reflection on, well, anything, in my opinion."
That said, Silverstein feels like it's high time to come forward and "say it to everyone...I’m a hot mess. And I kinda just want to embrace it and move on, cause I have more important issues on which to dwell."
She explains what being a "hot mess mom" means for her: "I am that mom who doesn’t do dishes at night before I go to bed. I do dishes when I get around to doing dishes. I’m that mom who grabs her kids’ clothes out of the dryer in the morning because nothing is folded and put away. I’m that mom who forgets to send in forms and gets calls reminding me that, yes, I need to send in those forms. I’m that mom who misses a birthday party or an appointment from time to time because I forgot to put it in my calendar. I’m that mom who forgets to RSVP and gets a last minute text asking if my kid is coming to the party. I’m that mom who screams all morning to get the kids out of the house because we are all running late. I’m that mom who packs a crazy, one-food-group lunch because I haven’t gotten around to going food shopping. I’m that mom who lets her kids have endless screen time sometimes (ok, more than sometimes) just because I don’t feel like fighting and need to get a few things done. I’m that mom who has piles upon piles upon piles in the house of papers, books, and projects to go through that I say every day I’ll take care of but never do."
But she's also the mom whose "kids are safe ... for the most part, happy," "whose home has lots of love and laughter." She's also that mom "who cheers on her kids and is their biggest fan, "who is constantly working to show her kids they are accepted no matter what, "who takes her kids to do cool stuff and have great experiences, "who loves being a mom."
Silverstein concludes, "I’m definitely a hot-mess mom, but dammit, I’m still pretty fabulous. MY FELLOW HOT-MESS MOMS….YOU ARE DAMN FABULOUS!!!!"
The post is just so darn relatable that it has racked up more than 4K shares and nearly 4K reactions, as well as hundreds of comments from appreciative moms who totally get it. "This is my life too," one commenter wrote. Another shared, "I'm that mom who packs her kid in the car and shows up to their pediatrician appointment a week early, because I asked the date of the appointment 3 different times in the same phone conversation with the receptionist... but still put the date wrong on the calendar."
The truth is that all any mom can do is her best, and absolutely no parent is perfect. Props to Silverstein for keeping it real. So many "hot mess moms" are sure to be appreciative of her empowering message.