We've all heard the comments.
"What do you actually do on maternity leave?"
"You're so lucky you're a stay-at-home mom, you must have soooo much time on your hands!"
"Being a mom is not a real job."
"Oh, so you're just a mom?"
They're misguided, unfair and completely frustrating—and now one mom is slamming the idea that mamas don't have their hands ridiculously full.
Real mom Anna Strode received a comment from a social media user who basically insinuated that the mama doesn't have responsibilities. "It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK...' Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?!" Strode wrote alongside a photo of herself with her children.
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Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt. It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK...' Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! Just to break it down... I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day! Other days we're so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts we've learnt. I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn't even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn't even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON'T 'just play happily and entertain each other all day!' For the record, TWINS don't do that!!! Maybe when they're older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no - I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them! Cont. in comments 👇👇
Then she proceeded to break down how difficult and busy mom life is. Strode tore down the assumption that she has all the time in the world to exercise, admitting that sometimes even a 20 to 30 minute workout is tough to squeeze in, and that her kids interrupt her more often than not (yup, sounds like #MomLife to us). She listed of a whole roster of duties moms must assume, totally obliterating the idea that raising children is a walk in the park by doing so. It's something you need to see—especially if you're an overworked mom who is completely fed up with ignorant comments from people who just don't get it.
Commenters have totally got the mama's back. "You are doing a great job and are definitely an inspiration. Being a SAHM is hard, no joke. I am a SAHM and work part-time too doing moveout cleans (very physical work). I bring my kiddo with me to work so no breaks there. I barely ever have time to workout right now or don't feel good enough to get up and do it because I'm pregnant too (low energy, nausea, aches and pains...), but try when I can. Keep up the good work. You are what I aim to do in a day and I'm working to get there," one fellow mother wrote.
We applaud this mama for standing up for overworked mothers everywhere. Hopefully her words have helped people realize that while being a mother is definitely a labor of love, there's plenty of hard work involved.