Whether you're thinking of becoming a single mother, or are already are caring for a child on your own, knowing how get help when you need it will ensure you thrive.
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In a perfect world, all babies would be born to mature, loving, solvent couples who wanted them desperately, and who had every resource in the world to care for them. Life isn't always this simple, however. Whether you've become pregnant by a partner who isn't going to help you raise the baby, or you're considering having or adopting a child on your own, it's important to remember that millions of healthy, well-adjusted children have grown up in single-parent homes.

If you choose to become a single mother, you'll have plenty of company: Cleopatra, Maya Angelou, Ingrid Bergman, Jodie Foster, Rosie O'Donnell, and Elizabeth Taylor are just a few of the high-profile women who have raised (or are raising) children on their own. To say nothing of Bill Clinton's mom, Sophia Loren's mom, John Lennon's mom -- you get the idea. In fact, current statistics place the number of children being born to single-parent households in this country as anywhere from 34 to nearly 50 percent.

This is not to say that it's going to be easy. Which is why the No. 1 piece of advice offered by experienced single moms is: Get support. Lots of support. The less money you have, the more support you'll need. If it took Hillary Clinton a village to raise a child, it's going to take you the city of San Francisco.

Single Mom Challenges

Once you've decided to become a single mother, you'll have a host of special issues to deal with that other mother's in your life don't. These include:

  • Deciding how to tell people about your decision
  • Dealing with complications during pregnancy
  • Choosing your support team for prenatal visits, labor, and postpartum
  • Deciding what to put on the birth certificate
  • Telling the father (if appropriate)
  • Planning financial support
  • Understanding legal issues of adoption and single parenthood

Some of these issues will affect you, while others may not. As one single mom put it, "Everything I expected to be a problem – loneliness, fear of giving birth, the belief that I'd never date again – turned out to be no sweat. But things I never considered – like getting laid off when I was five months pregnant with practically no money in the bank – hit me like a Mack truck."

Still, the same mom adds, "My daughter is the most precious gift I have ever received. I would do it all again in a moment."

Single Mom Help for Your Situation

There are two ways to become a single parent: through conception or adoption. Within these basic categories, there are a number of options to consider.

  • Conception can occur through sex with a partner, insemination by a known donor, or insemination by an unknown donor.
  • Adoption can occur independently or through an agency; can be open (you and your child remain in touch with the biological parents) or closed; and can happen in the United States or abroad. You can choose to adopt an infant or an older child, with or without special needs.

Each of these options has pros and cons. If you're unsure of the direction you wish to take, talk with other women who have made the choice through support organizations like Single Mothers by Choice. Once you've started your journey as a single mother, consider tapping into one of these great resources based on your situation:

Websites for Single Moms

The internet is full of amazing resources for single mothers. Here are a few great websites for single moms and what type of support they offer:

SingleMothersByChoice.com: General help and support

Adoption.com: A good first stop for potential adoptive parents. Also check out Adoption.org

HelloBaby.com: Loads of great general information on donor insemination provided by Pacific Reproductive Services, a leading sperm bank in the U.S.

Surrogate.com: Information and support for people attempting to become parents through sperm donation

Books for Single Moms

There is also an abundance of literature you can pick up to prepare yourself for becoming a single mother, and also for guidance on your journey. Here are our top picks:

Who it's for: Author Jane Mattes' geared this book to women in their mid 30s or older who are considering adoption or insemination. Shop this book

Who it's for: This comprehensive, thoughtful, and empowering book by Lee Varon is for any single parent looking for support and information on adoption. Shop this book

Why we like it: Geared toward couples with fertility problems, Carol Frost Vercollone created this guide that is still the best source of information on donor insemination. Shop this book

Why we like it: A classic by author April Martin for gay parents, both single and attached. Shop this book

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