Teaching Kids Table Manners: Real-Life Tips
Our readers share how they encourage good table manners
Sleuth With Your Kids
For our three kids, ages 8 to 12, we incorporate learning table manners into games of I Spy. I might say, "I spy someone eating with his mouth open" or "I spy a napkin missing from a lap." The kids have fun joining in, especially when they catch Mom and Dad not using their manners.
Invent a Code Word
If my 10-year-old, Ben, forgets his manners, I quietly mutter "schnozzberries." The word makes him smile -- and remember to behave politely.
Pamela Eustis Miller
New York, NY
Give Out Checks
When my kids were small, I kept a manners checklist on the kitchen wall. Each manner remembered at mealtime earned a check. Checks added up to chances to pick dinner and desserts throughout the week. My children really enjoyed the process, and above all else, it worked.
Bookmark Bad Manners
My children loved the book Dude, That's Rude! when they were younger. It's funny, yet at the same time, it teaches good behavior.
Let the Winners Pick Dessert
We play this game: See a family member not using table manners? Point it out and get a point. Whoever has the most points by the end of the meal gets to choose dessert.
Laura Michelle Delgado
I just tell my kids, "Nana is coming to visit!"
Peachtree City, GA
Make Your Point With Games
I run a day care and have two small children of my own. Depending on what we need to work on, I use different games at the table. For example, when a child uses her hands instead of silverware, we'll put on gloves. Clean gloves at the end of the meal earns a treat. If a child is bouncing or being silly as he eats, we'll make crowns to wear. Those who sit still enough to keep theirs from falling off get a reward.
Amber Steinkamp Dedert
Put Reminders on the Table
For our kids, ages 3 to 8, we use double-sided place mats featuring a list of tips for good manners on one side and helpful outlines of table settings on the other. I bought the place mats at a school fundraiser last year, but you could easily make your own and laminate them between sheets of Con-Tact paper.
Role-play as Royalty
My husband and I play the "castle game" with our 4-year-old, Pablo, and 6-year-old, Paola. We talk in fancy voices and pretend to live in a royal castle, where we all must mind our manners while we eat.
Grant Their Wishes
When our children, ages 3 to 10, do an amazing job acting politely at dinnertime, the Mommy or Daddy Fairy leaves a fun treat, such as candy or a balloon, on their chairs.
Colorado Springs, CO