Mom and vlogger Kristina Kuzmic wants us to know that the idea of a perfect mom is actually a total myth—and it's a message we all need to hear.

By Melissa Willets
August 23, 2017

Every mom has been there: unshowered, kids screaming and hanging off of us. Life can feel like it's falling apart in the trenches of parenthood. And then, we see her. A seemingly-perfect mom who got dressed, and washed her hair, and has clearly had enough coffee to nail this day, unlike you.

But mom and vlogger Kristina Kuzmic wants us to know that the idea of a perfect mom is actually a total myth. In a new viral video called "That Perfect Mom," she blasts the notion that other moms have it all together.

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"They are smart and confident. They are gorgeous and happy," Kuzmic says about "perfect moms" as we see a montage of women at the park, at work, and in social situations, looking happy and self-assured. And of course, we can't help but compare ourselves to these women, and maybe even wish we had their lives.

But Kuzmic wants you to know the truth about every single mom you have ever compared yourself to and wanted to be. "She has her own struggles," this mama says flat out. "Every single one."

We don't know what that perfect mom has to deal with at home; we are only seeing a glimpse of her. Maybe she lost a child. Maybe she can't get pregnant. Maybe she's broke. Maybe she recently battled cancer. Maybe her husband is a jerk! The reality is, there's no such thing as a perfect mom or a perfect life.

"Nobody's got this whole thing figured out," Kuzmic tells us, and for me, this reminder couldn't come at a more appropriate time. I recently lost a much-wanted pregnancy, and I'll admit it's easy to look around and feel like everyone's lives are better than mine.

"If we can just realize that perfection is an illusion, and that every single parent struggles at time, then we can finally accept our flawed and imperfect life and know that we are not alone in this," Kuzmic says at the end of her deeply-moving video. Her advice: Stop wishing you could have someone else's life and focus on being the best mom you can be.

Amen to that! It is important to remind myself that everyone's life is different, and this is mine. By tuning into my own life and the challenges I face, I can help heal and nurture my own family, leaving other mothers to do the same with their families.

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Here's hoping this video helps lift you up as much as it did me.

Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger/mom. Find her on Facebook and Instagram where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of yoga.