Saying "no." It can be really, really hard, at least for me. My daughter's Girl Scout troop leader asks me to volunteer at the meetings this year? I say "yes." My neighbor wonders if I can pick up her mail for a week while she's out of town? I say "yes."
Why? Because, in all honesty, I'm afraid to say "no." I don't want to upset or disappoint anyone. Except myself, I guess. Because inevitably I'll regret how overcommitted I've become and wish I'd just had the courage to say "no," like mom Kristina Kuzmic did, as she explains in a new YouTube video that is clearly resonating with parents across the Internet.
After her vocal chords betrayed her, as Kuzmic explains in the video, and she said, "Yes, of course, I'd love to," too many times, she gleefully reports, "Today I said 'no.'" Kuzmic goes on to relay how she was asked to help out with an event, and she very nicely told the person that she appreciated being thought of, but "no."
This mom knows we are applauding for her. We're impressed. Inspired even, to maybe, possibly work up the bravery to utter that one little world ourselves. Especially when Kuzmic says that saying "no" was like the first time she tried sushi. She was nervous, because it was unfamiliar. But one bite into that spicy tuna roll, and it was like, "Wow! That tastes amazing in my mouth!"
So how did Kuzmic gather the strength to finally say "no" after saying "yes" for so long? It's simple. "I was at my limit," she explains, adding, "I refuse to live in constant busyness."
Amen to that! I couldn't agree more that busyness is overrated. I mean, whatever happened to down time? Whatever happened to just hanging out? Since when did some law get passed that states we have to overschedule and overcommit ourselves until we are physically sick and unable to enjoy anything anymore? And so stressed, that as Kuzmic says, we take it out on our kids, or spouses?
If you aren't convinced that you should jump into a big old plate of "no" yourself, consider what Kuzmic says about how her mental health is way more important than "being liked by everyone."
Oh, Hallelujah! Kristina, you are officially my new guru! After all, being liked by everyone is impossible anyway, so why not just be happy?
What's your take?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of coffee.