Actress Garcelle Beauvais first graced our television screens years ago, and her plate is still full. Her new memoir, Love Me As I Am, captures the lessons she's learned and has passed down to her sons.
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At just 7 years old, Garcelle Beauvais relocated to Massachusetts from Saint-Marc, Haiti, in the dead of winter with her mother and sisters. Though now she is on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, hosts Fox's Hollywood Today Live, and is mom to three sons, the former fashion model and author once only spoke French and Creole and didn't know a lick of English.

She was also the only Black child at her school. Kids touched her skin and hair because they had never seen hair like it before. Although coming to the United States was a major culture shock, she flourished due to her resilience. Beauvais took in everything as a sponge, learned English from watching Sesame Street, and was fascinated by the new opportunity provided by her mother.

Her outgoing nature and determined spirit landed Beauvais a modeling contract as a teen and then a successful career as an actress. Decades later, as the first and only Black housewife cast on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Beauvais knows all too well the challenges of being in spaces and rooms as the only Black woman.

"When joining a franchise such as the Housewives brand, you're expected to bring the drama. At the same time, when you're the only Black woman on the show, you're critiqued through a much harsher lens," Beauvais told Kindred by Parents.com in an interview. "Yes, I definitely felt the pressure that people wanted me to come in and do a certain thing or have a chip on my shoulder."

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star and pop culture icon shared a lot in her new fearless memoir entitled Love Me as I Am, released April 12, 2022, in which she talks about life, love, and the pursuit of true happiness. She shared which parts of her book are going to resonate with Black women. 

"Resilience. Trusting your gut. Your front row women who are there for you. Your friends who support you. Trust. Forgiveness. Those things will resonate. We can all learn from these and benefit from them in life," says Beauvais.

As a mom, she understands the importance of preparing her children for similar encounters. Beauvais has had these important conversations with her sons, 14-year-old twins Jax and Jaid and her eldest son Oliver, since they were each 3 years old. They've talked about navigating life as the only Black children in their community, school, or the world. She empowers her children to know who they are and to recognize that they are good. 

This inspired her book series, I Am, because she didn't want anyone to add negative connotations to the experience of being raised by a Black mom and white dad. Beauvais' goal is to ensure her children don't feel inferior and, instead, feel empowered. "When you know who you are and are reaffirmed, you don't let people steal your joy," she says.  

The Housewives star recently spoke out on the Real Housewives show. "Black people don't have the privilege of not arming our children with tools on how the world will treat them," says Beauvais.  

As a single mom, the entrepreneur is enthusiastic to date but keeps her life as a parent separate. With a full plate, she refuses to settle and be pressured into a relationship. 

"As women there's daily pressure on us… if you're not in a relationship, you must not be happy. You must not be fulfilled," she says. "Or, if you don't have any children, it's like, 'What are you doing with your life?'"

When it comes to dating, Beauvais prefers taking her time and doing so when her twins are with their dad, Mike Nilon. She's been blessed in many ways and says her soulmate will come when it's time. "You want to live your life, but your kids don't need to go through the whole journey with you every step of the way. When there's someone special, they will know who that is," she says. 

Beauvais advises single moms to have fun dating, put yourself out there, and have a good time. "The next person doesn't have to be the person. You can have fun as long as you're comfortable and setting boundaries," she says. 

The actress is hopeful that her book Love Me As I Am will become a huge success. She's recently signed a development deal with NBC and is excited about other developments that can't be announced just yet. 

"As a mom, it's important for your kids to see you flourish as a human being and live the dreams you want as well. It's affirming that just because I'm a mom, doesn't mean I can't do other things," Beauvais says.

These days, she is modeling for her children in every way possible.