No one wants their kids to be bullied! Betsy Brown Braun, author of "Just Tell Me What to Say," shares the ways you can help your kids deal with bullies.
It's really important that you distinguish between bullying and teasing. Many parents of young children assume that when a child is being teased or maybe picked-on a bit at nursery school or in kindergarten- even first grade- That it's bullying. But the definition of bullying is that it is repeated, directed, comments, actions towards a specific child. So teasing and bullying are really quite different. We do know that as soon as children become active on the internet, with social media. There has been a huge uptick in cyber bullying. Nonetheless, the rules, the comments, the things that we say to children, apply to cyber bullying, too. To the younger child, we say, if somebody is making you feel bad, hurting your feelings, picking on you, the most important thing for you to do is tell a grown up. Because there are people who will help you. It's not okay for somebody to make you feel bad. So to our older children, not only do we want to encourage them to tell a grown up. It is incredibly important that they feel supported and they have someone to talk to. But also, we want to help them to have a response. Because bullies are attractive to people who just stand there and do nothing to the weak link. So we want to tell them make some suggestions even talk to your child about what he would like to say to that bully like hey, back off. Or na, who cares. Or yeah, that's my hair. What am I going to do about it? One of the things absolutely that you do not say to a child about bullying is you know what? Just ignore it, just walk away. Because that's not gonna help and it won't help the child to feel powerful. We need to believe our children when they tell us that something is going wrong. They need our support, and they by all means need somebody to come to, and that person should be you. [MUSIC]