Why do kids have tantrums? Here's a guide to understanding your munchkin's fits and how to deal with them at home and in public.
[MUSIC] Children have different temperaments, and the kids who are tend to be more intense, are more likely to have tantrums. A parents response to tantrums has a big impact on whether they continue. If you pay attention to tantrums, they are going to happen more often. If you get angry in response to tantrums, there going to escalate. We also need to think about what kind of tantrums it is? Meltdown tantrums occurs when our children just feel very frustrated, and overwhelmed. Here you just want to wait until you can hear that change in tone that says okay, now you can approach them. And here maybe you'd give them a tissue or a sip of water, a little bit of comfort, and then we'll move on. Dramatic tantrums are different. These ones have no tears and they're more about trying to influence us, trying to get what the child wants. Just don't pay attention. Don't look at your child, don't react. Don't say anything. And, once your child calms down, then just move on to the next activity, without even saying anything about the dramatic tantrum. Staying calm in the middle of a tantrum is hard at home, but it's even harder when you're out in public. So if you can, try to step outside, or go in your car, so that you don't have all. Eyes on you, and you can just concentrate on waiting out the tantrum with your child. Probably the hardest place to deal with a tantrum is in a very small place, like on an airplane. Here your best bet is prevention, so make sure that you have snacks and activities, available for your child. So, they're not gonna get tired or hungry or bored. But if they really lose it anyway, despite your best plans, then try to move away from other people, maybe go to the bathroom if you can. So our job as parents is to try and remain calm, which isn't easy when our kids are on the floor screaming and yelling. [MUSIC]