Back to School: When Kids Argue With Other Kids

Does your kid always need to be right? Focus on these steps to help your kids argue less.


When kids argue with their peers, it can really take a toll on their friendships. I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore with a few tips to help kids take a more diplomatic approach. The good news, children who argue are often very bright and verbal, but they can be so focused on being right. They may not see how their arguments affect others. What can parents do to help? Teach your child to read body language. Is his friend upset or angry? Crying or shouting? Is he looking away silently with his arms crossed and his jaw tense? Then it's time to ease up. Suggest your child to ask questions. Simply saying, "What do you want to do?" or "What do you think?" can help your child understand her friend's wishes or concerns. Show your child how to compromise. If your child wants to play a game and his friend wants to shoot hoops outside, suggest they split their time between the 2 activities or find a third they'll both enjoy. Finally, encourage your child to give in graciously sometimes. It's not easy to say, "Okay. We'll do it your way." But this can be a very caring gesture.

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