What Summer Really Costs Parents
One spring day, while Jacki Lenners was checking email from her job as a marketing manager for the Northern Arizona public transit system, she received a message from her daughter's school with a subject line that triggers stress for parents everywhere: "Summer."
Whether you're working remotely, have a full-time office job, or are helping your kids run a lemonade stand while shuffling them back and forth to the pool, summer with kids is fraught with exhausting logistical and financial obstacles for parents. Ensuring that your kids end up with a carefree (but intellectually stimulating!) summer is a job that begins in winter and doesn't end until school resumes-and a whole other scheduling grind begins.
Scheduling summertime child care
Lenners, who has a 4-year-old daughter and a 12-year-old stepson, printed out calendars after receiving that email from her child's school, stared at June, July, and August on the calendar, and thought, What am I going to do? The previous year, her daughter attended camp at her regular school, an expensive but sensible solution.
But this time around, Lenners wanted her to have a "change of scenery." She found some appealing but pricey options, including one at the local arboretum, but most started an hour after Lenners's workday began and ended smack in the middle of the afternoon. Before- and after-care were available-but for additional fees.
The fact is, for many moms, summer is a problem that needs to be tackled with elaborate spreadsheets. Lenners likens the challenge to solving one big puzzle. Often, what parents need most-a break from the school-year scheduling grind-is a piece that just won't fit.
Complicating matters is the guilt parents experience from signing their kids up for a summer that often doesn't match the carefree, sun-speckled, sandy-toed version of their own childhood memories. That includes waking up whenever you want and running outside barefoot to explore whatever and wherever the day leads you.
"I can't give her that," Lenners tells Parents. After all, hiding behind the scenes-and making possible-those idyllic, free-form childhood summers past was a stay-at-home mom, in more households than not. "And what I can give her that's as close as possible is one of my biggest sources of stress."
Lenners ended up getting a huge assist from her mother-in-law, who decided to spend part of the summer with the family to alleviate the scheduling stress. And her husband is a sales rep who works from home, so her stepson, who is having a low-key summer, is covered. But she still spent hundreds of dollars for three weeks of camp.
Summer camp costs are expensive
As Lenners can attest, summer is expensive, and working and stay-at-home parents alike need to factor that cost into their yearly budget so they don't take the hit all at once. Stay-at-home parents may be around to stock the fridge more often, or may even pay for camps when they don't need the child care, simply so their kids can experience a week or two of structured socializing and fun. Meanwhile working parents might keep their kids full-time at the same child-care center they attend for after- and before-care during the school year-a move that can prevent scheduling conflicts, but may double the monthly cost of care.
The American Camp Association (ACA) says the average cost of summer camp in the United States is around $76 a day, and for sleep-away camp, it's $172. But the reality is that prices vary widely, and often the cost is quite a bit steeper than these averages. Summer day camp costs, for instance, range anywhere from $25 to more than $150 per day, while sleep-away options run the gamut from $50 a day to more than $300 a day.
Specialty summer camps, meanwhile which focus on such things as soccer, STEM, or art, are in a league of their own, with costs starting around $200 per week. And if your child is a budding actor or actress, expect to pay even more. Some theater-focused camps can cost as much as $500 for a week of half-day attendance or $800 for a week of full-day attendance.
Agnes Berrena, a single working mom in State College, Pennsylvania, went from paying $300 a month for before- and after-care for her 8-year-old son during the school year to $800 a month for full-day summer camp at the same child-care center.
"That's a big chunk of money," Berrena tells Parents. "I budget in extra money each month to set aside for the added costs of summer."
Alternative options for child care
For moms like Amy Milgrub Marshall, a writer and editor at Penn State University, the best solution was a babysitter. Marshall told Parents she shelled out $400 a week-plus gas money and $30 to $40 of "fun" money a week-so a sitter could hang out with her 8-year-old daughter and 12-year-old son come summer. One of those weeks, her daughter attended a $195-day camp at a nearby environmental center. (The camp is so popular that parents often block off an entire morning on the day registration opens and scramble to fill out the forms before it sells out.)
Camps and care in urban areas can be even more expensive than elsewhere. One New York City mom, who requested anonymity, spent more than $6,500 one summer on her two kids: $2,400 to send her 7-year-old to three different day camps, and $4,200 to cover the cost of a babysitter and 2-day-a week summer preschool tuition for her 3-year-old.
"We did not have this money saved up, so we put most of it on credit cards, which really pained me to do," she says. "So at the end of the summer, I resolved to be better prepared for this year's expenses by setting up a new savings account just for summer camp. I set up ongoing automatic withdrawals from my checking account once a month, so the savings happens on its own. This summer, we're better prepared to absorb the expense."
Another way to ease the financial pain of summer is through employee flex spending accounts (FSAs), which allow you to save on out-of-pocket child-care expenses. With FSAs, funds are automatically deducted throughout the year on a pre-tax basis, and employees are reimbursed for qualified expenses.
For Milgrub Marshall, the FSA works. "This summer is going to be pretty expensive," she says. "But it's easier to stomach knowing we're getting a fat check back at the end."
Milgrub Marshall is also lucky that her job offers flexibility. Because summer tends to be slower at work, she's able to take on some logistical responsibilities herself, rather than paying a sitter for more hours. She's able to bring her kids to work occasionally and to leave work early once a week to pick up her son from a camp that ends at 3:00. And she relies on friends to pitch in with rides home.
"It's cliché, but it takes a village," she says.
Financial aid options
Getting through the summer can seem like one big game of trade-offs. When it comes to ensuring that our kids experience their own version of summer fun, it can seem there's no limit to what a parent will do.
In the case of Ursula Abbott Connolly, an actress in New York City, the sacrifice was a bit extreme. She works hard during the year to compensate for big-item parenting expenses, like her 7-year-old son's summer camp. For example, she once endured a week of uncomfortable television shoots where she played a zombie victim-just to save for camp costs. In one 4 a.m. shoot, she was attacked, tied up, and bitten in the leg-leaving her thigh spurting with fake blood.
"I kept telling myself, He better love camp," she recalls. "He's going every single day-even if he has a 104-degree fever."
The good news is there can often be financial aid available so that you don't have to endure the same torture Connolly did.
About 94 percent of camps across the country offer some type of financial assistance, according to American Camp Association. The association's CEO Tom Rosenberg told Care.com that in addition to scholarships and financial aid, day camps qualify for the Child and Dependent Care Credit.
And at the risk of rolling out a cliche, when it comes to getting a discount at these camps, Rosenberg noted that the early bird gets the worm. In other words, those who sign up as soon as possible may snag early bird specials or other discounts.
And one last note: The ACA also has its own helpful resource page for parents looking for help affording camp.