A new study says married couples are in a sex slump and technology is probably to blame.
The phrase "Netflix and chill" may be a euphemism for sex, but whether Americans are actually getting some while they binge-watch has yet to be determined. In fact, according to a bummer of a new study. we're all having less sex these days, and excessive screen time may be to blame.
Researchers found that while in the 1990s, the average American had sex about 60 to 65 times a year, by 2014 that number had dropped to just 53—which is basically once a week. And while the decline was pretty much apparent across the board—regardless of age gender, race, or geographic location—married couples were definitely hit the hardest, down from 73 times a year in 1990 to just 55 in 2014.
So what's to blame for the lack of getting lucky? The authors postulated that since Americans are now waiting longer to have kids, the later childbearing may create a "perfect storm" for married couples of having school-age children and being older, both of which seem to decrease sexual frequency. Makes sense, I guess? They also pointed to some possible cultural changes over the past 20 years, like the rise of social media and video on-demand. I mean, why have sex when you could be Facebook-stalking your high school boyfriend or streaming all five seasons of "Breaking Bad?"
Not gonna lie—my binge-watching tendencies have definitely been an issue in my own bedroom. Like over the summer, for example, when both of my kids were off at sleepaway camp, but I couldn't manage to tear myself away from "The Night Of." Don't judge. I needed to find out if Naz killed Andrea, OK? Plus, like the late George Michael once so eloquently put it: "Sometimes you think you're gonna get it/But you don't and that's just the way it goes."
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I know, I know. He also said "not everybody does it, but everybody should." Doesn't matter. Because at the end of the day the joke was on me, since the show ended for good and—spoiler alert!—we still don't really know what happened. Which means I walked away feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, and wanting more. Anybody got a panacea for that?
Hollee Actman Becker is a freelance writer, blogger, and mom of two who writes about parenting and pop culture. Check out her website holleeactmanbecker.com for more, and then follow her on Instagram and Twitter.