Whether you breastfeed or bottle-feed or end up doing a combo, every mom has her own journey when it comes to making sure her little one is well-nourished. Unfortunately, being honest about that journey may very well open you up to finger-pointing or tongue-wagging. That's exactly what The Real World: San Diego and Southern Charm star Candace Eubanks knew would occur when she took to Instagram to reveal that, after three months, she was officially throwing in the towel on breastfeeding her daughter Palmer.
On January 31, Eubanks shared the news with her followers, captioning her post, "I know I’m opening up the flood gates with this one.?" The dated Instagram text shot explains that she gave breastfeeding "a good almost 3 months and I'm retiring my boobs. ... You see, I’m not quitting because my milk supply dried up or because I’m sick. ... I’m quitting because I’m just plain OVER IT. By CHOICE. I know I will get lectured and judged by this but it doesn’t bother me. I need some freedom back for my sanity and the bottle and formula will allow that. You are NOT a bad mother if you don’t like breastfeeding.”
Of course, Eubanks' candid confession was met with some criticism. "I really think that moms milk is best for baby. I will do my best to feed him as long as I can. PS: #iamdyingtodrinkabottleofwine,” one commenter wrote.
But plenty of Instagram users applauded the new mom for her honesty and said they could relate. One wrote, "I just hit 5 months and I feel done af. My nanny is bullying me into continuing. She breastfed a year and change... good for you but I’m a working mom and I don’t have energy left. Esp now that I have to pump for nanny so the baby won’t latch on anymore = pumping all day long and it makes me want to die! Ugh!" Another shared, "Thank you. I developed depression because of this and how judged I was. The only support I really got was from my husband. You writing this just made my day."
Props to Eubanks for being real about her unique experience. The way our culture pressures moms to be "perfect" -- especially when it comes to how you feed your baby -- is totally toxic. That's why Eubanks' message is all too important -- and one we should continue to celebrate, not shame.