In a viral Facebook post the new mom pens a love letter of sorts to all the exhausted mamas out there, writing, "I NEED you to hear me. I NEED you to understand something. Whatever you are doing for that precious baby is exactly right."
"Don't let your friend, or your friend's friend, or your mom, or your church leader or your neighbor or anyone else in the entire universe tell you otherwise," Means continues.
Um, is she talking directly to me? It sure feels like it! Many other moms agree; her post has been liked and shared hundreds of times.
Means goes on to advise us to follow our instincts. She also shares a photo of bottles of breast milk she just pumped, writing, "See these bottles? They are mine… after pumping. Righty has always been able to produce more than lefty. Clearly. There's 4+ ounces in one, ½ an ounce in the other."
"Could I have tried and tried and eaten better things, and visited more lactation people and spent more time to get lefty to work?" Means goes on to ask in her post, and then asserts, "Probably. Did I choose my sanity instead? You bet."
The powerful post then goes on to say that no matter what you feed your baby, "you're doing is perfectly right." Means adds, "You love your baby, right? You're doing everything in your power to give him/her the best possible life, aren't you? Great. Then you're perfect."
Yes, in the end whether you bottle- or breast-feed, homeschool or don't, whether your kids have their own cell phones or not, what your kids eat, if you drink too much wine or coffee, as long as you listen to your instincts, you are doing it right. Perfectly right.
I for one can't thank this mom enough for sharing this message. Sometimes we all need a little reassurance. My ultimate takeaway: as we are making big and little decisions about how to raise our kids, as long as we have their best interests in mind, and are doing the best we can, we should stop doubting ourselves, and mom on!
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Means told Parents.com about why she thinks her post has resonated so strongly, "Parents are tired of all the 'suggestions' from well-meaning friends, relatives, strangers online, the lady in the grocery store, etc. In this situation, moms need to trust their instincts and do what is best for baby AND mom. So many of us get caught up in the day to day comparison game—it's easy to do. I've done it too! But I'm over it. I'm tired of listening to what others have to say and I want moms to know that their choice is the right choice. Trust that. Believe that. If we do, our kids will be just fine."