Is this tribute to SAHMs awesome or offensive?
A post meant to pay tribute to stay-at-home moms has highlighted the fact that the mommy wars are nowhere near over.
Mom and tattoo artist Ryshell Castleberry shared a post to her Facebook page that has since been viewed more than 528,000 times, and shared close to 190,000 times. It begins by imagining a conversation between a husband and his psychologist. The husband says he works as an accountant at a bank, but his wife? "She doesn't work. She's a housewife."
The psychologist then poses a series of questions, which the husband answers:
Q: Who makes breakfast for your family?
H: My wife, because she doesn't work
Q: What time does your wife wake?
H: She wakes up early because it has to be organised. She organizes the lunch for the children, ensures that they are well-dressed and combed, if they had breakfast, if they brush their teeth and take all their school supplies. She wakes with the baby and changes diapers and clothes. Breastfeeds and makes snacks as well.
Q: How do your children get to school?
H: My wife takes them to school, because she doesn't work.
And so on.
The psychologist asks what the husband does after he gets home from work, and he replies, "Rest, of course. Well, I'm tired after working all day in the bank." Meanwhile, he admits his wife is making dinner, cleaning up, helping the kids with their homework, and getting them ready for bed. He adds, "Once in bed she wakes frequently to continue to breastfeed and possibly change a diaper if needed while we rest. Because she doesn't have to get up for work."
Are you starting to see the point being made here?
"This is the daily routine of many women all over the world, it starts in the morning and continues until the wee hours of the night," Castleberry writes. "This is called 'doesn't work'?!"
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Her goal in writing the post is to encourage people to appreciate their wife, mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, daughter, etc. "Because their sacrifice is priceless," she explains, adding her post is, "Dedicated to all the women who give their lives for the welfare of their families."
This is all well and good, except working moms have blasted her for her words. One commenter pointed out, "I work and do all that other stuff as well..."
Another commenter wrote, "Its also the daily routine of working women. They just have 8 hours a day less to do it all."
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While the working moms definitely have a point, I'm guessing Castleberry's post wasn't a jab at them, especially since she is a tattoo artist, and perhaps puts in hours at work herself. And as a working mom, I don't take offense to her words. It's supportive of all moms as I see it, and just highlights the fact that much of our "work" goes unnoticed.
What's your take?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.