As a working mom-of-three, I am definitely my own worst critic. In my mind, I am failing. At everything. All the time. I'm not doing enough at home, I'm not doing enough at work, I'm not doing enough as a wife, and on, and on....
But a new video from Chicco offers an eye-opening glimpse into how others perceive us moms, as employees, as mothers, as wives, and more. The three-minute clip is part of the brand's #NeverStopGrowing campaign celebrating and supporting new moms as they attempt to navigate the balance between their own expectations and the realities of trying to do it all.
In it, we meet Jess, a mom about to sit down for a return-to-work performance evaluation after having a baby.
Predictably, Jess is very hard on herself, admitting she feels like she never has enough time in the day.
But now this mama's boss has a surprise for her. Jess is about to hear from her co-workers and family members, who have their own take on how she is performing in her new role as a working mom.
Guess what? They all think she's amazing.
"I have no idea how you're achieving so much," one of her co-workers says.
Even her in-laws admire Jess's efforts!
"You are an amazing mother, and an amazing wife," Jess's sister also tells her.
Now Jess is a mess, crying and blubbering, like anyone would be if they found out that they aren't sucking at life after all, despite what they may have thought.
If only all of us could have the opportunity to see that our achievements aren't as one-dimensional as we perceive them. That we are actually doing so much if we look at the total picture. And if only more bosses would see us as the total package, and get to know our families, and who we are, and how our lives look as a whole, like this employer did. This way of thinking could be beneficial for everyone. Especially moms. Because as Jess realizes, she actually rocks. And all you mamas reading this do, too!
What's your reaction to this powerful video?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and a mom. Follow her on Twitter (@Spitupnsuburbs), where she chronicles her love of exercising and drinking coffee, but never simultaneously.