Thank you to this eloquent mama for seeing the best in all moms, instead of judging them. Here's hoping her words inspire more mothers to do the same!
Unfortunately, mom judgment has become an indelible part of raising kids in the age of social media. I know I've been the target of it, specifically with regards to my decision to formula feed my three kids. One commenter to a blog post I wrote on the topic told me I didn't deserve to be a mother. Ouch.
My experience with mom judgment is why I so love a recent viral post by mom Ashle Potter, which went viral after being shared on the Love What Matters Facebook page. Her message? You're a good mom whether you breastfeed, formula feed, stay home with your kids, go to work...and the list goes on.
Of course, this line speaks to me: "To the mom who's formula feeding: Isn't science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn't produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You're a good mom."
I also love when Potter writes, "To the mom who works: It's wonderful that you're sticking to your career, you're a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it's fantastic. You're a good mom."
The comments section offered some wonderful additions to Potter's post as well. "To the mom who had her baby vaginally, you are brave. You are a good mom. To the mom who had her baby through C-section, you are the epitome of strength. You are a good mom," reads one.
And another added a shoutout to adoptive moms: "To the moms out there who did not give birth, did not change diapers, who met their child later in life and still loved them like their own, you're a good mom."
Ultimately, I think all of us can relate to one of the powerful anti-judgment sentiments in this amazing mama's post. The nearly 1,000 comments to the post definitely speak to that.
"I don't often comment but you nailed it...Parenting is like trying to fold a fitted sheet, we are not sure which is the correct way, there are lots of theories but so long as no one gets hurt you are doing ok," one commenter wrote.
"Thank you for this. I am pregnant with my first and constantly worry if I'm gonna be a good mom. I have already chosen not to breast feed but I will use a breast pump to feed my baby. Some people have disagreed with my decision. But for me I believe it is the best decision," reads another comment.
Finally, a mama speaks for us all when she writes, "As a new mom it is easy to get caught up in what others think." She adds, "but we are slowly learning that it doesn't matter what others do, say, or think about how we raise our daughter. She is warm, she is fed, she is clothed, she is happy, and she [is] loved beyond measure."
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What is your reaction to Potter's much-needed call for the mom judgment to end once and for all?
Melissa Willets is a writer/blogger and soon-to-be mom of four. Find her on Facebook where she chronicles her life momming under the influence. Of yoga.