For parents of a preemie, the NICU can be confusing and terrifying. This couple is trying to help insert some hope.
"You simply cannot rush a miracle..."
So begins a recent Instagram post from Jourdan and Matt Moore, who welcomed twins Jaxson and Cadence four months early back in 2015. The duo spent more than three months living in the NICU, but now the 16-month-old brother and sister are healthy and thriving at home; and the Moores are sharing images of their amazing journey as a message of hope.
Like this one:
You simply cannot rush a miracle. The tiny steps forward, the massive steps back, the detours from our own plan are all part of the strategically orchestrated blueprint which someday transforms into the miracle. I used to think all miracles were instantaneous. I've learned that the most beautiful of all miracles are the ones you get the honor of witnessing in slow motion. Left: 1 day old /exactly 4 months prior to due date. Right: 16 months old / 12 months adjusted age. #transformationtuesday #godofmiracles #mircropreemiemonday #slowandsteadywinstherace
And this one:
Christmas PJs last year vs this year. Right photo was taken when the twins were 67 days old and still in NICU. Cadence hit the big "three pound" milestone that day. Jaxson was 3lb 8oz at the time. Hollie and I used to gather around the crib late each evening in anticipation as the the night shift nurses weighed the twins. Every gram gained was a victory. Today they are almost 15 months old, 11 months adjusted age, and wearing 12 month size PJs. I think they are about 19 pound each right now, but honestly who's counting any more?
And this one:
"The purpose of our social media accounts is to spread hope to preemie parents," Jourdan explained to The Huffington Post. "If we didn't expose where we came from, some of our most difficult moments, then we wouldn't be fully revealing the depth of the joy we are enjoying today."
"In the NICU you focus on survival day by day, sometimes hour by hour," added Matt. "It's not a brightly lit nursery with a big window for people to gaze in, like you see on TV. It's a dark, quiet, private space."
He's so right. My daughter was a preemie, born at 32 weeks, and the walls outside the NICU that was her home for a month were lined with framed pictures and stories of the hospital's "graduates"—former NICU babies who were grown up and thriving. I read those stories and stared at those pictures every single day. And while I couldn't actually ever imagine my daughter being up there on that wall one day, those images, and the possibility they represented, are what kept me going.
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So big ups to the Moores for generously sharing their twins' journey, and inserting a tiny bit of hope into a place that often feels hopeless. Their babies are amazing—and so are they!
Hollee Actman Becker is a freelance writer, blogger, and mom of two who writes about parenting and pop culture. Check out her website holleeactmanbecker.com for more, and then follow her on Instagram and Twitter.