A mom from Ohio is making headlines for an honest, downright heartbreaking Facebook post in which she details being body-shamed by a stranger while shopping at the grocery store with her baby. Charli Stevens writes that she was browsing in the Christmas section of her local Kroger on Saturday, December 2 when she realized another shopper was staring at her. Eventually, the woman approached her.
"While there, I notice this woman, who was probably in her 50’s, kept staring at me. I hate when people stare but didn’t say or do anything. A couple minutes later, she came up to me and said 'I think your clothes are a little too small on you.'" Stevens wrote alongside a full-length mirror selfie. "Completely caught off guard and baffled and also hoping she didn’t say what I thought she said, I said, 'Excuse me?' And she said, 'Well no offense but you’re just a bit big to wear those type of clothes.' Instant tears. I didn’t know what to say. Usually I’m so quick to lash out at rude people and I’m never shy when it comes down to speaking my mind. But I froze. Froze and cried. She said, 'I’m not trying to be mean but maybe just reconsider your outfit before leaving your house from now on.' She walked away and I just stood there at the cart with Grayson looking at me. I was literally crying in the middle of the Christmas aisle at Kroger. I left without buying anything and sat in my car and cried."
What a nightmare! It's impossible to read this and not feel your heart absolutely ache for this mom, who, sidenote: had just given birth to her little one only five months prior!
"It’s no secret that I’ve gained weight throughout life," Stevens went onto share. "I’ve birthed two kids so it’s bound to happen. Do I realize I’m overweight? Yes. Do I want to be smaller? Yes. But am I okay with the way I look? Yes!! Why would a complete stranger go out of their way to insult someone? What if I was severely depressed? Or what if I was constantly made fun of for my weight and that one comment from that stranger pushed me over the edge? Luckily, I’m neither of those things. But people have got to start being nice. Having common sense. Being respectful. This lady knew nothing about me. I had my f-month-old son in the cart, and I am SO thankful my 4-year-old wasn’t with me to witness what happened. This lady also doesn’t know that I’ve lost nearly 50 pounds from my heaviest weight before having Grayson, but apparently that’s not good enough. My clothes were tighter than what I would normally wear but so what?! It shouldn’t matter what people wear."
Stevens concluded her post with a plea: "Please, PLEASE, have some respect for people. You never know what someone is going through or if your one little comment, snicker, stare, whatever will be enough to break someone down or push them over the edge. I’m not writing this for sympathy but just as a plea to anyone who might read this to just be nice and have respect for people. I fear for my daughter to grow up in this world. We’ve gotta set a good example for our children."
It's heartening to see that most of the over 3K comments she's received on the post have been extremely positive and supporitve. "Some people just don't realize how rude they are," one woman wrote. "Keep loving the skin that you are in. What an accomplishment to have lost 50 pounds! Congratulations! You look marvelous. I bet that you feel great too. Don't let this one lady stop your confidence. Blessings." Another said, "You look great and you are radiating confidence in this picture so next time you go to the store be sure to bring extra confidence to show the Debbie Downers, Negative Nancys, Rude Rachaels, and Snooty Sarahs that they can't get to you!"
Bravo to Stevens for speaking up and spreading this powerful message. Not only could we all stand to be more respectful and think before we speak, but this also goes to prove you should absolutely never mess with a badass mama bear!