"This is my son, Tagg, whom I placed for adoption in March of 2016. This video was created so that he would be able to look back and know that this decision was made purely out of love for him. He will never have to think that I 'gave him up' or that I did not love him. He will always be able to know that I loved him more than anyone else in this world," Mongie explained alongside the video on the popular Love What Matters Facebook page.
She went on to note, "I hope anyone who watches this will be able to gain a new perspective on what the Birth Mom goes through, when she places her child for adoption. It is the FURTHEST thing from a heartless act. It shows the definition of love. To love someone this much, is to give away your happiness for them. A lot of people have asked about possibly seeing him again in the future... This is an OPEN adoption. I get to see him all the time, thanks to his wonderful Mommy."
Scary Mommy reports that Mongie used Adoption.com to find Emily and Brad Marsh, Tagg's adoptive parents. And it sounds as though Mongie knew, from the minute she connected with the couple, that it was meant to be. “Emily and I talked about everything under the sun in under two days. I had asked every difficult question out there and all of her answers blew me away beyond belief,” Mongie told Scary Mommy. “We put his nursery together, we had baby showers, and we hung out with each other’s families all the time."
It's been two years since the adoption was made official, but Mongie is still very much in Tagg's life. “I don’t really see it as an ‘open adoption’ so much as I see them as just family,” she explained. “My parents call all of Brad and Emily’s kids their grandkids. We get them all Christmas and birthday gifts as if they are our kids. Everyone’s extended families have just taken each other in as their own. We are just family.”
The beautiful story has touched thousands of people since going viral. From the Love What Matters Facebook page, the video has been shared over 13K times and racked up over 5K comments. "I just did this today...I haven't stopped crying all day but I know my daughter will have a loving home [and] everything else I can't give her," one mom wrote. Another shared, "I’m an adoptive mom - my son’s birth mother is one of the most selfless and amazing people I know. Birth parents should be treated with the utmost respect, kindness and love."
Ultimately, all Mongie wants is for her experience to “help spread the word about open adoption and that we can normalize it, because it is so healthy not just for the child, but everyone else that’s involved as well."